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Public Speaking Experts Share Their Top Tips for Giving an Amazing Wedding Speech

Check out their best examples and advice to learn how to knock it out of the park.

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Most people would agree that public speaking isn't easy, and this is especially true when you're feeling the added pressure that comes along with giving a speech at a loved one's wedding. Not only do you have the attention of dozens (if not hundreds!) of guests you probably don't know, but you're also trying to appeal to a group of people in a wide range of ages from all different phases of the couple's lives. What's more, you want your speech to delight the couple of the hour and be as appealing to your group of friends as it to the newlyweds' grandparents. All in all, it's a tough task.

Before you panic, know that we're here to help. Ahead, we're sharing a comprehensive guide on what you should include in your speech , how to nail your delivery, and questions to consider to get the brainstorming process started—all from noteworthy speakers, well-established speechwriters, and wedding planners (who have seen it all).

Wedding Speech Template

Every great wedding speech has one thing in common: the right flow. Factor in these guidelines to help you find your own organic rhythm.

Open With a Statement or Question

Don't lead with a joke or a reference to how nervous you are. "The goal is to engage your audience, not make it a boring one-way message," says award-winning motivational speaker Jaime Pfeffer . "You'll lose them if you do this."

Introduce Yourself

After your opener, introduce yourself, says Fallon Carter , a wedding planner, even designer, and professional speaker. "A lot of times, people don't know who is speaking, and they don't know their relationship to the bride or the groom," she says. "It's really important to identify yourself, so make sure you've prepared something."

Address Your Audience

As speaker and life strategy coach Mark Black, CSP , points out, focusing on yourself only enhances nerves. "Instead, concentrate on your audience and how you want them to feel. This will help you to speak from the heart, allowing your speech to do what it's supposed to do: Make the couple feel special while also engaging the audience."

Focus on a Few Points

Seasoned speaker Susan Bender Phelps, CEO of Odyssey Mentoring & Leadership , says her top guideline is to select one to three aspects of the newlyweds that you love and appreciate, along with no more than three short stories to illustrate each of these points (or that one point). "The simple, succinct story or stories where the bride and groom are the hero will work best." This is an excellent way to structure your speech and keep your message focused.

How Long Wedding Speeches Should Be

The ideal length for a speech is three to five minutes, with five minutes being the absolute maximum you should speak for. That's it. "I’ve never been to a wedding where anyone said, 'That was a great wedding, but the best man speech was just too short and that  ruined  it,'" says David Litt , the speechwriter for former President Barack Obama and author of Thanks, Obama .

Carter agrees: "I always say anywhere between two and five minutes—and no more than five minutes," she says. "You want to keep things short and sweet." It's just as important to keep in mind when the speech will take place when determining length, since toasts are often timed with meal courses: "Be mindful of how long a course generally takes or how long it takes people to eat," Carter adds, noting that most courses last between 15 and 20 minutes and that several speeches have to fit inside each window. "If there are other people speaking, you want to be mindful and give them space."

Wedding Speech Tips

Now that you've established the right framework for your words, take note of these essential tips for acing the delivery from a few speaking pros.

Rehearse Regularly

The better prepared you are, the more confident you'll be and the better your speech will be, says author and professional speaker Barry Maher . A good rule of thumb is to practice the speech enough that you can remember the points you want to make and the order in which you want to make them. That way, you can look out to the crowd and make eye contact every so often.

Record Yourself Practicing

Use your phone to take a video of yourself practicing, suggests Kate Kenfield , speaker and sex educator. "It can be a little uncomfortable to watch yourself, but you'll be able to identify distracting mannerisms, such as the verbal pauses 'um,' 'uh,' and 'like'." It's also a good idea to practice your speech in front of someone else. "A second opinion can help you craft your piece and make it that much stronger," she says.

Don't forget body language! Rehearse the speech in front of a mirror and notice things like your facial expression, eye contact, and hand position.

Avoid Alcohol

Although it may be tempting to look for some liquid courage, alcohol definitely won't do you any favors, warns keynote speaker Amy Morin , author of 13 Things Mentally Strong People Don't Do . "It may cause you to slur your speech and forget your lines, so wait until after your toast to celebrate," she advises. If you need a drink to loosen up the nerves or can't refrain from participating in a toast without being rude, stick to one glass of Champagne before you address the crowd.

Use Nerves to Your Advantage

A little nervousness can actually liven up your speech. "I get worried if I'm not a little nervous," says Maher. "I'll actually try to make myself a little tense to get my energy level up." The key is to harness that energy and communicate it in a positive, genuine way; tensing up to the point that you forget your words or panic won't make for a great presentation.

Be Yourself

Keep in mind that you're not putting on a show, only sharing your personal perspective. Trying too hard to force the funny can yield the opposite of the desired effect, cautions Matt Dalley, co-founder of Simply Eloped . "I've noticed that keeping it short and sweet, heartfelt and warm, and coming across as authentic and focused on the couple is something we are all capable of and generates some very wonderful moments," he says.

Never Embarrass the Newlyweds

It's a wedding toast, not a roast. While this should go without saying, keep the bachelor or bachelorette party jokes out of it, and remember that grandma and possibly a few colleagues are in the audience, notes Laurie Battaglia , a keynote speaker and workplace strategist. "It's okay to look back at childhood and refer to something funny, but ask yourself if you'd like 200-plus of your closest friends knowing that story about you."

Use Your Notes

Reading your speech straight from a piece of paper is a big no-no. However, having a couple of note cards handy is encouraged. "You're likely to be nervous, excited, and exhausted, which can make you forget your lines," explains Morin. "The audience won't care if you glance at your notes. In fact, there's a good chance they won't even notice."

Wedding Speech Brainstorm Ideas

Need some inspiration? Ask yourself these questions to get the brainstorming process going.

• Who will speak before you? After you? How will this affect the content of your toast? (Perhaps you want to include a reference to their speech, thank them for an introduction, or introduce the next speaker).
• Is there someone you should thank for making the event possible and inviting you to speak?
• What would you want to hear in this speech if you were in the audience?
• Is there a favorite story or memory that the couple would want you to share with their friends and family?

Wedding Speech Examples to Make Your Own

So, what does it look like when all these elements come together? Wedding vow and speechwriter Katelyn Peterson , owner and creator of Wedding Words , offered us three examples of successful toasts to inspire your own.

Maid of Honor Wedding Speech Example

"Hi, I’m Maya, the bride’s older sister . With Lucy being three years younger, we fell right into our respective roles as sister-rivals growing up. We constantly fought over stolen clothes, monopolizing the phone back when landlines were a thing, and what boy band to blare from the car speakers. I’m still Team Backstreet Boys while Lucy is forever indebted to NSYNC.

Looking back on those memories, I should have stepped up and granted Lucy permission to wear my favorite sweater for picture day, to hand her the phone once in a while, and to let her play, 'Bye Bye Bye.' Even I can admit that’s a good one. But despite Lucy being the younger sister, she has always been more patient, more accommodating, and more thoughtful than me. And that’s because when it comes to the people she loves, she’s all in.

She’s the one to prioritize their desires. She’s the one to compromise first. And, she’s the one to support their dreams as if they were her own. 

This is why it makes me so happy to know that Lucy has found a home in David. He matches her in compassion, thoughtfulness, and warmth. And I know he’ll spend his life prioritizing her desires, being ready to compromise, and supporting her dreams as his own.

Cheers to Lucy and David! May you always feel loved because you always put each other first."

Best Man Wedding Speech Example

"Hello, everyone. My name is Luke and I’m the best man . I met Robert eight years ago when I became his neighbor. His reputation preceded him as I had heard about the 'Block Party King' before my closing papers were inked. 

Rob has never been the guy to wear fancy clothes. In fact, I’m still in shock seeing him in that tux tonight. And he’s never been the guy to show off even though the work he’s put into his vintage Mustang could make Henry Ford himself envious.

But when it comes to cooking, he should receive an award. His pulled pork is a staple at our summer block parties and his homemade barbeque sauce has remained our neighborhood’s best-kept secret. But the most satisfying part about his delicious dishes is that there’s always plenty to go around. And Rob makes sure your plate is never empty. I have no idea how he pulls it off, but Rob has a covert ability to scoop seconds onto your plate without you ever seeing him do it. I hope you all came hungry tonight, folks. You’ve been warned! 

The first time I met Jasmine I could immediately tell she was an amazing person. She laughed at his jokes which I never thought anyone would get. She supported his career and the nonstop travel involved. But most importantly, whenever we’re all hanging out, Jasmine is the one always topping off Rob’s plate with more pasta, more chicken, more of everything. When she’s around, it’s never empty. 

And that’s when I saw what a perfect match they were for each other. I know they will always put each other first, make sure their needs are met, and will never allow the other to go hungry.

So let’s raise our glasses to toast the newlyweds! As you begin this next chapter together, may your plates and your hearts always remain full."

Father of the Bride Wedding Speech Example

"Good evening, family, and friends. I’m Daniel Lee, the father of the bride. I’d like to welcome you to this special occasion where we get to celebrate the love between my daughter Allison and her new wife, Kristin. 

Standing up here today, I’m reminded of all the moments that led to this significant one. The dance recitals that ended with standing ovations and the soccer games that concluded with winning scoreboards. 

But, while those were fun and rewarding times, those aren’t the moments I cherish most with Allison. The memories that make me smile the brightest are those in-between the big stuff moments. It’s the makeshift magic shows in our living room using a bedsheet that Allison confiscated from our linen closet to convert into a curtain. It’s the countless tea parties she hosted with exclusive invitations just for me and her beloved stuffed bear, Buttons. And it’s the way she’d beg to stay up for just five more minutes but was asleep on the couch by minute number two.

Those everyday, blink-and-you’ll-miss-them moments with Allison are the ones that gave color to my life and filled my heart with a happiness I never knew could exist.

So, my beautiful daughter, as you begin your life with Kristin today, I have one wish for you: May your warmest memories come from the ordinary moments throughout your marriage, and may those moments give you a reason to smile brighter every day. Cheers! I love you both." —Daniel

What Not to Say in a Wedding Speech

Your job when delivering a wedding speech is to keep things light—tell an anecdote, make an emotional connection, then wish the couple well before you close out. Anything that doesn't feel definitively positive should be avoided. "I would advocate against bringing up negative details, specifically past relationships or past spouses," says Carter. "Skip anything that you wouldn't want to be physically recorded and played over and over again—this is a rule of thumb."

Keep it light, delicate, and present- and future-focused, Carter adds. "If you're going to go into the past, make those stories really intentional," she says. "Bring those stories back to who they are now. Your mission is to create a great environment and vibe and to potentially give some information about one of the newlyweds, so that it's enlightening for all guests."

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Someone you love is getting married, and you’ve just been asked to give a speech at the wedding. What an honor! But also, if you’re not used to giving speeches, what a nightmare! Public speaking can be scary , which is why many people prefer to avoid it. But when your bestie asks you to make a speech at his or her wedding, it’s time to rally. But now you’re wondering if you even know how to write a wedding speech! What makes some wedding speeches fun and memorable, and what makes others cringy and fall flat? We’ve got you. We’ve put together the ultimate guide for how to write a wedding speech, focusing on things you definitely should do, things you definitely should NOT do, and then how to deliver your killer wedding speech like a pro.

If you’re wondering how to write a wedding speech, here are a few “Do’s” to keep in mind.

• Start planning early
• Introduce yourself and how you know the bride and groom
• Thanks to hosts, guests, and wedding party; congratulate the couple
• Make it personal
• Think of 3 traits with 3 stories
• Talk about the couple
• Have a beginning, middle, and end
• Consider your audience
• Keep it short and sweet
• It’s okay to be simple and meaningful

1. Start planning early

If you don’t know how to write a wedding speech but the bride just asked you to give one, this is not a time to procrastinate. Public speaking is one of the number one fears many people have, so it’s likely you’ve avoided giving too many public speeches before this. And unless you’re a performer or a veteran improv comedian, you might not do too well winging this one. If you get nervous in front of an audience (as most of us do), the best defense against freezing up when you take the mic is being prepared. 

As soon as you know you’ve been asked to give a speech at the wedding, begin jotting down notes immediately. Whenever you’re inspired by a thought of the couple or remember an anecdote that might be worth retelling, make note of it. This will help to give you a pool of ideas to draw from when you start writing down the speech.

Begin gathering ideas and writing the speech a couple of weeks to a month before the wedding. You’ll need time to edit, fine-tune it, and make it concise. And as wedding showers, bachelorette parties, and other wedding festivities begin, you might find there are entertaining stories from these events you want to add as well. If you want to write it all at once, you can do that too. However, make sure to sleep on it and come back with fresh eyes. You don’t want just “okay,” you want your speech to be heartfelt and meaningful.

You will also want to begin early to give yourself time to practice and rehearse your speech plenty of times.

2. Introduce yourself and how you know the bride and groom

No matter how large or small the wedding is, it’s likely you will not be familiar with many of the guests on one or both sides. And they won’t be familiar with you either. So don’t leave them guessing! 

Make sure when you start to write a wedding speech to introduce yourself and mention how you know the couple. This will help them understand the context of your speech, which will also help it to be more well-received. 

3. Thank hosts, guests, and wedding party; congratulate the couple

It’s also courteous to take this time to thank the hosts and other members of the wedding party for all the hard work that went into the event, and to thank guests for being there to support the newlyweds, especially those who had to travel far. 

It’s also a good time to officially congratulate the newlyweds and offer them your personal well-wishes for their future. It is imperative that you don’t forget this part, because they are the whole reason you’re there and giving a speech!

4. Make it personal

Whether you are the maid of honor, the best man, father of the bride, or just a friend, you were asked to give a speech because of your close connection and relationship with either the bride or groom (or both). 

And since you know your friend as well as you do, you probably have plenty of stories to share; so the next tip for how to write a wedding speech is don’t hesitate to make it personal and share those stories! This will also help guests get to know the other half of the couple they might not know as well or are just meeting for the first time. And those guests who do know them will love hearing some entertaining stories they might not have heard yet.

5. Think of 3 traits with 3 stories

If you’re finding it difficult to come up with anything, a useful approach for how to write a wedding speech is to think of 3 positive defining traits or qualities of the bride or groom and recount three stories or examples that illuminate a time they exhibited these traits. These stories could be comedic, heartwarming, or both. Just make sure they are relevant and entertaining!

6. Talk about the couple

If you’re the maid of honor and have been chatting up the bride for the whole speech, part of how to write a wedding speech is to make sure at some point it circles around to the groom, too, and to the two of them as a couple.  

Recount the time you met him, or how you remember talking about him with the bride in the beginning stages of their relationship. If you don’t know the groom all that well, talk about how good they are as a couple and about how happy he makes her. 

And If you’re not a fan of the groom, this is not the time to air your grievances. Always keep it positive. 

7. Have a beginning, middle, and end

All good speeches have a good flow and take the audience along with it. 

Don’t let your speech fall flat or jumble together in a haphazard confusion of disconnected anecdotes. Give it the structure of an overarching theme, with a beginning, a middle, and an end. 

We are not talking about a novel here, just make sure there is a direction to where the speech is going, and that the destination, end, or sentiment is achieved. It doesn’t need to be Charlie Chaplin in The Great Dictator, but a three-act structure does help keep you grounded. Most people also follow a story easier when there is a clear direction for a story or speech. 

8. Consider your audience

The next thing to keep in mind when considering how to write a wedding speech is to make sure you consider who your audience is. 

This is not the bachelor or bachelorette party. There will be a wide range of people present from children to the elderly, and from close friends of the bride and groom to casual acquaintances and coworkers. Make sure your speech is free of any crudeness that might not be fit for such a varied audience. Also, this isn’t the time to take a shot at any of the religious cermonies.

Be considerate and keep it positive and use language everyone can relate to. 

9. Keep it short and sweet

You want your speech to be meaningful and memorable; but the wedding is not about you, and yours is not the only speech. 

No one ever complains about a speech being too short, but they do begin to grumble if it runs on too long. A good rule of thumb to keep in mind when figuring out how to write a wedding speech is to keep your speech between 2-5 minutes long. Any longer than 5 minutes and you’ll lose everyone to thoughts of cake and whether or not to Cupid Shuffle later. 

10. Add humor

Don’t be afraid to be funny! Another tip for how to write a wedding speech is that if you’ve got a lighthearted, creative, joking side, use it and add humor to your speech! Everyone likes to be entertained. 

This doesn’t mean you should scour the internet for generic wedding-themed jokes, but if you’ve got some good original material to use that helps relate a story about the bride or groom in a comedic way, do it. As long as you’re not making fun of the couple but having fun with them, jokes are great. Or you can even poke fun at yourself to illuminate a higher quality in your bestie. It’s all about making the newlyweds shine. 

If you’re creative and have other talents, use them! If you are musical, bust out your instrument and/or vocal cords and make the speech in the form of a song! Use props, and get the other guests involved! The newlyweds will feel special because you created something for them, and the guests will love joining in the fun.

11. It’s okay to be simple and meaningful

If entertaining isn’t your thing, that’s okay! Don’t force it – just be yourself. It’s okay to be simple and meaningful with your speech. Always keep in mind when you go to write a wedding speech that what’s important is that you are genuine and speak from the heart.

Hopefully, you found these tips for how to write a wedding speech helpful, and can start writing today! And stay tuned to our blog for the next part in this ultimate guide for how to write a wedding speech where we highlight a few things you should definitely avoid.

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Wedding speeches are a long-time tradition of weddings. And, if you have an important role at a wedding, such as best man, father of the bride or maid of honor, you would be expected to give a speech. While the thought of giving a speech might be nerve-wracking, it might comfort you to know that the best speeches are short and sweet. So, don’t feel any stress or pressure, because short wedding speeches are not only the best, they are easy to deliver.

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For your inspiration, we’ve put together a guide as well as some short wedding speeches examples to help you on your way to give the best wedding speech.

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Short Wedding Speeches Examples

Bride’s wedding speech.

“ Hello, everyone! Thanks for sharing this special day with us. A big shoutout to my amazing parents for making my dream wedding a reality. To my incredible groom (name), your joy fills my heart every day. I’m beyond grateful to have you as my husband, and today marks the start of countless joyous celebrations together. Cheers to love and a lifetime of happiness!”

Groom’s Wedding Speech

There are many ways to give groom short wedding speeches. Use this example as a guide to inspire you when writing your own.

“Hello, everyone! Thank you for celebrating this special day with us. A big thanks to our parents for making today possible. Today is beyond special, and we’re overflowing with gratitude. To my love, you’ve been my rock and best friend. Thank you for accepting me, flaws and all. I promise to be there for you always and to love you forever. Cheers to a lifetime of love and joy together!”

Father’s of the Bride Wedding Speech

“Ladies and gentlemen, thank you for joining us on this special day. As (bride’s name)’s father, I’m overjoyed and grateful. Today, we gain a son and a supportive family. Thanks for making our dreams come true. I’m confident that (name of groom) will bring endless happiness to my daughter. Here’s to love, security, and many more joyous days ahead! Cheers!”

Father’s of the Groom Wedding Speech

“Thank you all for being here to celebrate with us. I am the happiest man today welcoming a new daughter into my family. Also, I am grateful to her family as well for being the best in-laws ever and supporting us in putting all of this together. I could not have asked for a better day for them, and all I can say is that I wish them the best. To you both, may this day be the beginning of a long and fruitful journey together. My wife and I love you both. Once again, thank you all. Cheers.

Wedding speech for mother of the bride

“Hello everyone. Thank you all for being here. My heart is full today, as you all must know. Watching my daughter take this important step in her life has made me very happy. We are all so happy to support them both in starting this new chapter in their lives. I have dreamed of this day so much; I am grateful to finally be able to see it. (Groom’s name) has been an excellent son-in-law and I am beyond happy to welcome him into our family. I am extremely proud of my daughter and happy to give her to someone who loves her just as much as we do. As we celebrate with you two today, may the sounds of celebration never leave you. All our love.”

Wedding speech for the mother of the groom

Another one of our short simple wedding speeches examples for the mother of the groom.

“Warm greetings to you all. I appreciate the time that you have taken to join us in celebrating (bride and groom). From the day my son introduced me to (name of bride), I have grown to love her as my own daughter, and it has been a joy to watch them grow in love with each other. I used to have a lot of anxiety about my son’s relationships in the past, but when I met (bride), I knew that he had met his match. I am happy to celebrate you both today in not just your union, but the union of our families too. Much love to you both. Cheers everyone!”

Best Man Speech

“Ladies and gentlemen, if I could have your attention, please. Today, I stand beside an extraordinary couple, [Couple’s Names], on their special day. To [Bride’s Name], you look absolutely stunning, and [Groom’s Name], well, you clean up pretty well too! Here’s to a lifetime of laughter, love, and countless adventures. May your journey together be as incredible as this celebration. Cheers!”

Maid Of Honor Speech

Ladies and gents, let’s talk about the dazzling duo we’re celebrating today, [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name]. To my gorgeous bestie, you’ve found your lobster! And to the lucky guy who snagged her, good luck – you’re stuck with us now! Here’s to a love that’s as endless as the dance floor tonight. Cheers to the newlyweds!

One-Line Wedding Speech Examples

Crafting the perfect wedding speech is an art. Here are five examples that blend sentiment, humor, and celebration for your inspiration.

Today, we not only witness the union of [Couple’s Names] but also the merging of two hearts that beat as one. Here’s to a love story that transcends time and space.

As I stand before this extraordinary couple, I can’t help but marvel at the love between [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name]. Today, we celebrate not just a wedding but a promise of forever.

In the grand storybook of love, [Couple’s Names] have written a chapter filled with laughter, tears, and endless love. Here’s to turning the page to a beautiful new beginning.

To [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name], may your marriage be the masterpiece of a lifetime, painted with strokes of joy, understanding, and boundless love.

As witnesses to the love between [Couple’s Names], let us raise our glasses to a journey that begins today and unfolds into a lifetime of shared dreams and cherished moments.

A toast to love and laughter—here are five heartfelt expressions for raising your glass to the happy couple.

To the couple, may your love be as timeless as the vows you share today and as joyous as the celebration we’re all a part of!

Here’s to love, laughter, and a happily ever after for [Couple’s Names]. May every day be an adventure filled with shared dreams and endless love!

To [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name], may your journey together be as sweet as the cake we’re about to devour! Cheers to a lifetime of love and happiness!

Let’s raise our glasses to [Couple’s Names], whose love story is as enchanting as today’s setting sun. May your love glow brighter with each passing day!

A toast to [Bride’s Name] and [Groom’s Name], may your marriage be as perfect as today’s weather, and your happiness as everlasting as the memories we’re creating!

How To Write a Short Wedding Speech

With this guide, you can create short and sweet wedding speeches that will just flow organically. Write a killer speech that would be easy to read and will convey your love for the couple perfectly.

• Remember who is in the audience: Whether you are giving short wedding speeches as the best man or groom, it is important to keep your audience in mind. Introduce yourself and acknowledge them. Focusing on the audience and engaging them will help you speak from the heart.
• Avoid alcohol: While getting some liquid courage can be tempting, it is best to lay off the alcohol until after your speech. Alcohol could turn short funny wedding speeches into something long and nonsensical. This is because you might slur or forget your words under the influence, and this is something you absolutely do not want.
• Use note cards: Although you are not encouraged to read out your short wedding rehearsal dinner speech completely, note cards are encouraged. With these cues, you can glance at your notes from time to time to help you remember your lines and keep you on track. The audience might not even notice, and your speech would be better for it.
• Structure your story: Structure your speech in a way that focuses on the bride and groom. Fine one, two or three points about them that you can elaborate upon and stories in which they are the hero. This will keep your message in the right direction, and you can be sure to end on a positive note.

In the next part, we have a list of some of the best short wedding speeches that can help inspire you to write your own.

Example of a Short Wedding Toast

“Cheers to [Couple’s Names]! May your days be filled with love, laughter, and countless joyous moments. Here’s to a lifetime of happiness together!”

How to Make a Short and Sweet Wedding Speech

Focus on key points like expressing happiness for the couple, sharing a brief anecdote, and offering a toast. Keep it concise, heartfelt, and light-hearted for impact.

Is a 1 Minute Wedding Speech Too Short?

No, a 1-minute wedding speech can be perfect. A concise speech ensures guests stay engaged and leaves a lasting impression. Focus on the essentials – expressing joy, sharing a quick story, and toasting the couple.

Not many people are trained public speakers, but it is hard to go wrong with short wedding speeches. Allow these tips and examples to guide you in making the best wedding speeches ever.

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Nail Your Bride Speech With These Tips and Templates

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You've reached for tissues during tear-jerker father-of-the-bride speeches and already warned your MOH to please not tell that story in her reception address , but do brides give speeches at weddings? A bride speech is not traditional or required—wedding toasts are usually reserved for the father of the bride, the best man and the maid of honor to congratulate the happy couple. But if you're a bride feeling inspired to grab the mic and shout-out your nearest and dearest (new spouse included), then we say go for it. Below, we're outlining what to say, who to thank and the best way to deliver a meaningful wedding speech , so you'll feel confident slotting yourself into the reception speech order of events. (Bonus: We've also got public speaking tips, so you won't drop the microphone—or worse, your champagne flute—with nervous, sweaty palms.)

In this article: Printable Template | How to Write | Examples | Tips | FAQs

Printable Bride Speech Template

Let this printable bride wedding speech template be your quick guide on the go. Tape it above your desk, pin it to your Pinterest board, leave it next to your computer as you search for wedding vendors for those last final touches or fold it up in your purse and look at it while waiting in line at the grocery store to keep those creative juices flowing. You'll find a deeper dive into each step in the next section.

How to Write a Bride Speech Step-by-Step

Follow these steps to write a wedding speech from the bride that'll cover all your bases, from the sentimental, to the silly, to the sweet. Plus, the outline—designed by Katelyn Peterson , a wedding vow and speech writer, will help you break up the task into manageable sections and fend off wedding writer's block.

1. Thank Your Guests

The first step when it comes to how to write a killer bride speech: thank your favorite people! The room is filled with loved ones who put in the time, money and effort to support you on your special day, so the first words you say should be a big, heartfelt "thank you."

2. Shout-Out Your VIPs

Your guests of honor—like parents, in-laws and grandparents—deserve extra gratitude. They're truly the folks that have stayed by your side through the ups and downs of wedding planning and life, so they should get a special callout. You can mention a specific moment of support or keep it general.

3. Share a Story About Your Spouse

This is your chance to shed some light on you and your partner's relationship. Whether it's surrounding a moment from the early stages of dating that turned into an inside joke or exemplifying a quality of theirs that is beloved by everyone in the room (generosity, sense of humor etc.), sharing a sweet anecdote about your relationship will remind everyone why they've gathered to celebrate your otherworldly love.

4. Connect the Story to Your Wedding Day

Tie the central theme of the story you choose into the present day to show how far you've come as a couple. Don't worry, you don't need to be a pro short story writer to accomplish this. Even a simple "they've kept me smiling from the day I met them all the way to walking down the aisle today" will help your speech feel cohesive and thought out.

5. Toast to Love

Ask everyone to raise their glasses and toast to love. It'll not only cover the newly minted married couple in the room (that's you, of course), but it also nods to the richness of the sentiment—because the room is also filled with the love between friends and family, new and old, all gathered to honor you.

Bride Wedding Speech Examples

Now that you've got the basic structure down, see it in action with these examples of a bride speech at a wedding. Get inspiration from these classic, short and sweet, and funny bride wedding speech examples to craft an address that feels true to you.

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Classic bride wedding speech example.

Good evening everyone and welcome! My new spouse and I would like to thank you all for being here today to make our day extra special. We'd especially like to thank both of our parents for their consistent support, generosity, and love, not only leading up to this day, but throughout our entire lives.

Northern Michigan is a special place for Charli and me. From first dates spent on the lake to family gatherings every 4th of July weekend, this very location has been the backdrop to our love story. And so it only made sense for us to get married in the same place where it all began. It brings us so much happiness and gratitude to know that the first page of this new chapter as a married couple is being written at my parent's lake house and with all of the most important people in our lives.

Here's a toast to everyone here who has been there for us in the past, who is here for us today and who we know will continue contributing to our love story through each new passing year of our marriage. We love you all. Cheers!

Funny Bride Wedding Speech Example

Just in case you didn't get the picture with the approximately 8,000 hugs I've already given out today, I'd like to thank everyone from the bottom of my heart again for coming to our wedding. I'd like to give some special shout-outs to my parents and my new in-laws for always being there for us, now and throughout our lives, including fielding absurd questions such as: "but what if everyone gets lost on their way to our very-clearly-marked-on-Google-Maps ceremony venue?" with the utmost grace and patience.

I'm not sure how many of you know this story, but on Jared and I's second date, we went ice skating. At some point during our laps around the rink, his belt fell off because of a broken buckle—we didn't notice it until a gentleman came up behind us and handed it back to him by saying, "Sir, your belt." The deadpan delivery has us both in fits of laughter—and the broken belt ended up being a fun way for me to get pulled around the rink, no longer relying on my sub-par skating skills.

Today, I look back on that moment as a metaphor for how he has since "skated" through life with me with humor, spontaneity and shared joy. And also a preview into a long legacy of loveable, questionable wardrobe choices that make him who he is. So, if you see me getting twirled around the dancefloor with a stray belt tonight, just go with it—it's part of our relationship lore.

Cheers to our love and the love that surrounds us—we're so happy you're here.

Short Bride Wedding Speech Examples

Example 1 I'd just like to say thank you all for coming today, especially to my parents and grandparents, who have been there for every milestone—big and small.

I'd also like to draw your attention to the cannoli table getting set up as we speak—it's filled with pastries from our favorite North End Italian bakery that's open until midnight (and we snacked on their cannolis at least once a week when we lived in the neighborhood). We hope they'll be a sweet way to end your evening tonight as it was for us during our dating days.

With that, cheers to how sweet love is.

Example 2 Everyone, thank you so much for coming together with us to celebrate. I'd love to give a special thanks to my brother, who, despite a twice-delayed flight from the other side of the country, made it here today.

As some of you know, we got engaged on the beach below—and I remember how windy that afternoon was. And though it didn't do wonders for our hair, those powerful gusts made us feel so present and in the moment; and later became a symbol of our steady love for each other. So, since tonight is also an especially windy evening, I hope you can reframe the less-than-ideal weather to mean that love is all around you.

Cheers to you all, we love you so much.

Bride Speech Tips

Use these quick tips to help you avoid any speech snafus during both the composition and the delivery. (Don't worry, you'll do great!)

Use the "Thank You Sandwich" Method

When it comes to how to start a bride wedding speech and how to end a bride wedding speech, you'll want to show gratitude for your guests on both ends. The opening line sets the tone, while the last line can be a creative callback to earlier moments in your address. "A callback happens when you reference something from earlier in the speech," says Peterson. For instance, let's say you shared that you and your spouse fell in love while singing the Hall of Oates' song "You Make My Dreams Come True." Then, your last line could be: "Cheers to you all for being here and helping make our dreams come true."

Don't Go Too Hard on the Jokes

There's a time and place for that embarrassing story about your partner in college (it's called the bach party), but your wedding reception is definitely not the occasion to share edgy jokes or awkward anecdotes, Peterson says. Moreover, while incorporating jokes into your bride speech can certainly make it more entertaining, don't feel pressure to make it a "Saturday Night Live" monologue. The key with bride speech jokes, Peterson says, is sprinkling them throughout in a subtle way. "This isn't a comedy act, so you don't need to try too hard," she says. "Instead, add playful tones where it feels natural and where your personality can shine."

Write Your Speech in Advance

While you're busy planning a million other details of your special day (Venue! Flowers! Dress! Cake!), it's easy to forget about writing the bride speech until the last minute. Set aside some intentional time for yourself to write your bride speech ideally a month or two, but at least a week before the wedding to avoid unnecessary stress. Peterson suggests slotting in a few 30-minute speech writing sessions into your schedule. Focus the first session on brainstorming material, then dive into writing and editing in the next couple.

Rely on Practice, Not Memorization

On your wedding day, there's going to be so much going on and emotions will be running high in the best way. The last thing you want is to worry about forgetting your speech. This is why Peterson recommends printing out your speech and bringing two extra copies on the wedding day in case one gets lost. Also, one of the biggest wedding speech mistakes you can make is not practicing. Reciting it a few times at home will do wonders to help you feel confident and allow for moments where you can look up from your paper to gaze upon your loved ones.

Use a Microphone

Make sure everyone can hear your thoughtful address by using a microphone. Yes, they're necessary no matter how small your affair is or how much you can project your voice from your theater-kid days. Pro tip: Remember to move the mic when you move your head so the sound doesn't get lost or muffled.

Bride Speech Frequently Asked Questions

Got questions about what to say in a wedding speech when you're the bride? We've got answers below on the basics.

How Long Should a Bride Speech Be?

For a bride speech at the reception, the motto is the shorter, the better. Keep it between two to five minutes, max. There will likely be other speeches for the guests to listen to in the wedding line-up, so you don't want the speeches as a whole to cut into all of the other festivities too much.

Who Does the Bride Thank in Her Speech?

Time is of the essence, so you should only thank the VIP guests—such as your parents, in-laws and grandparents—in your bride speech. Peterson adds: "You can also add a sweet line about how your new spouse has supported you and what you're most excited about in your future together."

It's safe to skip thanking the wedding party and your wedding vendors during the reception (even though it can be tempting to shout-out the stellar work of your incredible vendor team). Thank your wedding party during the rehearsal dinner instead and send handwritten notes or leave a review for vendors after the wedding as a thank-you.

How to Write Your Wedding Speech: Etiquette Tips and Wording Examples

Writing and delivering your wedding speech can feel almost as nerve-wracking as sharing your vows! While your wedding speech is an amazing opportunity to give a special thanks to your loved ones, it can also be seriously daunting.

The good news? There are some super simple guidelines to follow when it comes to writing an engaging and memorable wedding speech, and it’s probably easier than you think. Keep reading for our top wedding speech tips, templates and wording examples to inspire you for your own big day.

Should You Give a Speech at Your Wedding?

You might be wondering if you really need to give a speech at your wedding in the first place. Isn’t that job reserved for your cheeky best man and proud parents?

With all of the craziness surrounding your wedding day, it can be tempting to leave all of the speeches up to your loved ones. But truthfully, we think a speech from the happy couple is a beautiful addition to any wedding reception.

Think about it like this. How many opportunities do you have to show your appreciation for all of your favourite people together in one place? Not to mention any guests who have made an effort to travel, help out with the wedding preparations, or simply support your relationship over the years. There’s bound to be some well-deserved words of thanks for the special people in your life, and a heartfelt toast is the perfect way to show your gratitude.

What Does a Bride or Groom’s Wedding Speech Need to Include?

There are a few essential elements to tick off throughout your wedding speech to ensure it’s a great one. Your wedding speech doesn’t have to be long (or boring!). It can be short and sweet, formal or informal, cheeky or playful. You can deliver your speech together with your partner, or say a few words individually – whatever feels right for you!

No matter which format you choose, it’s important to thank the right people, keep your guests engaged, and maybe even get them laughing. Keep the following guidelines in mind as you begin crafting your wedding speech:

• A quick introduction. Whether it’s a formal welcome, or a funny joke to break the ice.
• A special thank you to any guests who have travelled
• A general thank you to everyone for attending
• A special thank you to any loved ones who have helped you out with the wedding preparations (like your parents, bridal party or siblings)
• How you met
• The moment you realised they were “the one”
• Your proposal story
• Your funniest memory together
• A memorable adventure shared
• Words of affection. If you’re delivering your speeches individually, take this time to share a few heartfelt words of affection to your partner. You can talk about how much they mean to you, their best qualities, and your hopes and dreams for the future.
• A toast. End your speech with a toast to your new partner – or if you’re delivering your speech together, a toast to all of your loved ones for being there.

Wedding Speech Wording Examples

Now that you know what needs to be included in your wedding speech, how do you pull it all together? Personally, we think the best wedding speeches are warm and light-hearted with a good dose of humour, while still being meaningful and sincere.

If you’re feeling stuck with writer’s block, draw some inspiration from our wedding speech templates below. We’ve included options that range from formal to cheeky to best suit the tone of your day!

The introduction:

“Hi everyone, and welcome to our wedding reception – it means the world to have you all here”

“Hi everyone – I guess it’s time for me to do this speech I scribbled down this morning over a glass of champagne!”

“Hi everyone. Before I go any further, I just wanted to make a quick toast to some really important people who I’m sure you’ll meet throughout the evening. Without them, honestly, none of this would be possible. Here’s to our bartenders!”

Words of appreciation:

“I want to first say a huge thank you to each and every one of you for being here. We feel incredibly grateful to have such an amazing group of friends and family, and it means the world to have all of our favourite people together in one place.

There are a few people in particular that deserve a special shout out. First, to our loved ones who have travelled interstate or overseas – [ make mention of guests who have travelled, or the different locations people have travelled from ]. We really appreciate you making the effort to join us – it wouldn’t be the same without you here!

I also wanted to say thank you to the people who have helped us plan this day, especially [ make mention of your bridal party members, parents, siblings or other helpers ]. We couldn’t have done this without your generosity and support.

And of course, to [ partner’s parents/family members ] who have always welcomed me with open arms. I feel very lucky to be joining such an amazing family today!”

Light-hearted anecdotes:

“It feels so surreal to be standing here at our wedding reception. It seems like only yesterday we [ share a funny anecdote about your first date, or the beginning of your relationship ]”

“I know that some of you might not remember how [ partner ] and I first met, and I feel like this is the perfect time to take a walk down memory lane – [ share a sweet memory or funny story about how you met ]”

When I first met [ partner ], I was instantly attracted to his rugged good looks and quiet confidence. Little did I know I was signing up to a lifetime of [ share a funny quirk, hobby or passion of your partner – for example, “failed cooking attempts and bad dad jokes”]

Where do I start with [ partner ]? They’re smart, good looking, kind, charming – sorry, [ partner ], I’m having trouble reading your handwriting. You’ll have to tell me the rest later.”

Words of affection:

“In all seriousness, I did want to say a few words to [ partner ]. You make me so happy, from the way you [ share something you love about your partner ] to the way you [ share some of your partner’s best qualities ]. Thank you for everything.”

“All jokes aside, I honestly don’t know where I would be without [ partner ]. Over the years, we’ve [ talk about your shared experiences, achievements and milestones ]. I can’t think of a better person to share the rest of my life with.”

“So with that being said, I’d like to raise a toast to the love of my life, my new [ husband/wife ]. Cheers!”

“So before we get back to the party, I want to raise a toast to my partner-in-crime, my best friend and my new [ husband/wife ]. Here’s to [ partner ]!”

“So now that the speeches are out of the way, let’s get back to the open bar! We love you all, and can’t wait to spend the rest of the night celebrating with you. We’d like to raise a toast to you guys, our favourite people on the planet. Thank you for being here!”

Wedding Speech Etiquette Tips

While the above templates and wording examples can be a great starting point, you have complete freedom to personalise your wedding speech however you like! Whether you want to keep things sweet and silly or romantic and heartfelt, your speech should reflect your personality and the relationship you share with your partner.

With that being said, there are a few etiquette tips to keep in mind for a well-received wedding speech:

• If you and your partner are writing your speeches separately, be sure to agree on length and tone before you get started. You don’t want to plan a hilarious speech packed with jokes and funny anecdotes, only to have your partner deliver something deep and meaningful in return.
• Don’t embarrass your partner! While playful jokes and funny stories are always a good idea, be mindful of where to draw the line.
• Keep it short and sweet, especially if you have loved ones delivering their own speeches, too. Between 3-5 minutes is ideal, with 10 minutes being the absolute maximum.
• You don’t need to go into specific detail when it comes to thanking your parents for any financial contributions. Talking about money during your wedding speech might feel a little awkward! Instead, make mention of their generosity and support instead.
• Practice makes perfect! If the thought of delivering your wedding speech feels seriously daunting, be sure to practice your speech out loud before the day to boost your confidence. Try to memorise the most important elements of your speech until you feel comfortable, so you don’t have to rely solely on your notes.

Remember, it’s usually the thought of delivering your wedding speech that feels the most terrifying. Once you get started, you’ll find the nerves will quickly fade away. Simply keep these wedding speech guidelines in mind, speak from the heart, and you can’t go wrong. You’ve got this!

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How to Write a Wedding Speech

Last Updated: March 19, 2024 Fact Checked

This article was co-authored by Jenny Yi . Jenny Yi is the Founder of Chloe+Mint, an award-winning full service event planning company that specializes in wedding planning, design and floral design. Jenny has been in the industry for over 5 years, and also works closely with notable brands and celebrities on branding and events. There are 7 references cited in this article, which can be found at the bottom of the page. This article has been fact-checked, ensuring the accuracy of any cited facts and confirming the authority of its sources. This article has been viewed 602,289 times.

For most people, their wedding day will be among the most important days of their lives. As such, it is customary for a close friend or loved one to deliver a speech congratulating the newlyweds on their union. This can be a nerve-wracking prospect if you’re the one called upon to give a speech in front of a big, expectant crowd. As the speechwriter, it will pay off to make sure that you’re organized, keep it concise and practice extensively beforehand.

Things You Should Know

Professional wedding planner Jenny Yi says the wedding speech should be “impactful, short, and sweet.” Explain how you know the bride and groom, share a quick backstory on how they met, then wish them well as a couple.

Sample Speeches

Writing a Meaningful Speech

• The best man and maid of honor are usually each asked to make a short speech on behalf of the wedding party. After that, the microphone is sometimes turned over to whoever would like to say a few words.
• Saying your name and briefly summarizing your history with the bride or groom will be enough. Don’t talk about yourself too much. Remember, the focus of your speech is the married couple.

• Use jokes judiciously to break the initial tension and keep the crowd relaxed. Try not to let your speech turn into a stand up comedy routine.
• Keep your humorous stories and remarks appropriate. There will be people of all ages in your audience, including children.
• Funny stories might include a funny story about the bride and groom's meeting, or an anecdote about one of them as a child.

• Sharing unique memories or stories is much more effective than simply complimenting the bride or groom because it is a more personal touch.

• If you decide to use a quote for this segment of the speech, make sure it is short, relevant and not a cliche.

• Acknowledging the people who helped make the wedding festivities possible will make you appear humble, as well as making them feel appreciated.
• Express your gratitude in a couple sentences. There’s no need to go on and on thanking every person individually by name.

Making Sure You're Prepared

• Treat your speech like you would a school assignment. Compose several drafts, check it for errors and have a friend proofread it to make sure it sounds good.

• Familiarize yourself with the order of presentation if multiple speeches are to be given.
• Don’t spend the entire ceremony fretting over your speech. If you’re sufficiently prepared, you won’t need to give it a second thought until it’s time for you to deliver it.

• Know your speech word for word, but try not to sound like you’re simply reciting it from memory. Pace yourself and give every passage emphasis, emotion and clarity.

• Put your entire speech on a couple note cards rather than a several large sheets of paper. Not only will this look better, it will help you keep your speech at the appropriate length.
• Only look at your notes if you draw a blank or forget the next part. This will allow you to keep your eyes up and engage your audience. Even the most riveting speech will be a bore if the person giving it is reading off a note card the whole time.

Giving the Speech

• Take a few slow, deep breaths. Think about what you’re saying and shut out all other distractions. Imagine that you’re giving your speech to one person instead of a room full of people.
• Have a drink or two if it helps your nerves. Just don’t have too many—you want to be focused and clear-headed when it’s time for you to take the floor.

• It’s perfectly okay to give a short speech. Simply say a few kind words, raise a toast and hand back the microphone.
• Speak slowly and deliberately. It’s easy to start chattering too fast when you’re nervous. By talking slower than you feel like you need to, you’ll probably be going at just the right speed.
• People who are underprepared or extremely anxious tend to talk aimlessly. Avoid this by sticking to what you’ve written and look to the crowd for cues about when their attention is evaporating.

• Take a moment to speak to the bride and/or groom directly.
• It’s normal to get a little choked up! As long as you can finish your speech, there’s no need to worry. It may even be flattering, as it will show the people you’re talking about how much you truly care.

• It’s customary for the best man or groomsmen to toast the bride, and the maid of honor to toast the groom.

Expert Q&A

• Keep quotes to a minimum, as other people's words can distract from what you're trying to say yourself. Thanks Helpful 2 Not Helpful 1
• If you're stumped on how your speech should flow, approach it the way you would a story: give it a beginning, middle and end. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 1
• Ask an honest, objective friend to give you feedback on your speech after you've finished writing it. Thanks Helpful 0 Not Helpful 0

• Never use a premade template you find on the internet to write a wedding speech. Your speech should be a product of your own unique thoughts, feelings and experiences. Thanks Helpful 6 Not Helpful 1
• Don't drink too much before delivering your speech. Thanks Helpful 5 Not Helpful 1
• Leave out especially embarrassing or offensive anecdotes. These are usually considered bad form. You're supposed to be honoring the married couple, not getting a laugh at their expense. Thanks Helpful 6 Not Helpful 3

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To write a wedding speech, start by introducing yourself and explaining how you know the bride and groom. Then, share some fond memories, like stories from when you were kids or how you met. Next, offer well-wishes to the bride and groom, such as wishing them health, happiness, and prosperity. Alternatively, try opening with a joke or funny anecdote, but make sure that your remarks are appropriate for everyone in attendance. Finally, briefly thank everyone for coming and for making the celebration possible. For tips on how to memorize your speech so that it doesn’t sound rehearsed, read on! Did this summary help you? Yes No

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Whether you’re a wordsmith or not, the prospect of crafting and giving a wedding speech can be a little nerve-wracking — particularly if you’ve never had the pleasure. To make things easier, we’ve compiled 10 tips to help you nail your wedding speech.

If you’ve been sitting in front of a notepad for approximately two hours and three coffees, procrastinating writing a killer wedding speech because you haven’t the foggiest where to start, then let us provide some relief and inspo.

Between the team, we’ve brainstormed 10 tips we think will help you nix the butterflies, knuckle down, and write a bangin’ wedding speech that guests will be talking about (favourably) for years to come.

10 tips for writing the perfect wedding speech.

1. Engage your audience.

If you pay attention to only one of these tips, it should definitely be this one! Giving a wedding speech is a lot like telling a story. If you’re not making eye contact or speaking with tone, they’re going to lose interest very quickly. It’s always beneficial to put personality and flair into a speech.

This comes out naturally when chatting to a group of friends or when reading to a child. Take a deep breath, relax, and speak conversationally — not formally as if you’re about to give your year 11 science presentation.

Bonus tip: Try not to read from a sheet or cue cards if possible, and if you must use them, stick to brief notes and dot points. This will help you tell the story far more naturally.

2. Structure.

Sticking with the analogy of a speech being like a story, it’s a good idea to think carefully about the structure. Great stories have a beginning, a middle and an end — and your speech will be easier to follow should it be structured in a similar way.

Bonus tip: Conclude your speech by referring back to your opening remarks.

3. Balance humour with emotion.

Adding a couple of zingers or funny lines is a fantastic way to get the audience to engage with your speech, but remember, no one is expecting you to be the next Jerry Seinfeld!

Humour should ideally be used in moderation, and your bestie’s reception isn’t an opportunity for you to perfect your stand-up comedy routine (yes, even if it’s really good).

You might like to start out with a good joke to break the ice, but keep in mind that grandparents and children are likely to be present so avoid anything too risqué .

Bonus tip: Balancing jokes with emotional anecdotes is a surefire way to nail your speech.

4. Don’t get wasted.

Do we… even need to say this one? No matter how nervous you are, it’s not especially wise to down eight cocktails pre-speech. Giving a wedding toast when drunk is a recipe for disaster — and embarrassment for your friend.

It’s smart to set yourself a limit, such as only having one or two drinks before giving your speech. That way you can settle your nerves without being in danger of slurring your words.

5. Timing is everything.

Trust us, if you go on for too long, things will get a little… awkward. Cue guests shifting in their seats and polite smiles from the happy couple. When it comes to giving a wedding speech, it’s important that you keep it short and sweet. Aim for around five minutes and you will be on the right track.

Bonus tip: Time yourself when practising. Or better yet, present your speech to someone else and ask them if they think it’s getting a little monologue-y.

6. Take it seriously.

One thing that you need to keep in mind is that being asked to deliver a speech at someone’s wedding is * Anchorman voice* kind of a big deal . While it’s okay — nay, encouraged — to have a little fun with it, it’s still important to take the responsibility very seriously. You have the honour of telling the happy couple’s story so you need to treat it with the respect it deserves.

7. Practise makes perfect.

The less you need to rely on your notes, the more natural your speech is going to sound on the day. The best way to get yourself to a point where you are not dependent on your notes is to practise, practise, practise! Run through your speech at every opportunity using everyone and anyone as your trial audience.

Bonus tip: Beginning practising is difficult as you actually need to think about giving the speech. Try to push through the nerves and practise anyway, even if you feel silly — your future self will thank you for it.

8. Choose a quote.

If you’re at a loss finding somewhere to start, then it can be useful to include a quote or a song lyric. However, make sure that the quote you choose is appropriate.

Stay away from tired quotes that have been done to death and pick out something that really means something to the newlyweds.

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9. Know your own style.

So, we’ve mentioned that when giving a wedding speech you’re going to want to connect with your audience. And if you’re forcing yourself to be someone that you’re not, then you’re going to find this a bit tricky.

If you’re not exactly known for being a laugh a minute then don’t feel pressured to make jokes! Similarly, if you’re generally a bit of a clown, then a formal, sentimental speech might not feel genuine. Instead, play to your strengths.

Bonus tip: Determine your own personal style and stay true to it.

Above all else, relax! Your speech is just a few minutes of the whole day, and everyone wants you to do well. Remember why you’re doing this: you love your friend and want to congratulate them and wish them a happy marriage — try to focus on them and what they mean to you.

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How to Write—And Deliver—The Perfect Wedding Speech

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If one of your nearest and dearest is tying the knot, it’s possible you may be asked to give a speech during the wedding festivities. And while having an opportunity to share your love and memories at a major milestone event is an honor, there’s no denying that it’s a big ask—especially if public speaking isn’t your forté. A wedding speech presents a unique challenge: There’s no set formula for how the speech should play out, but it often requires sentimentality, a touch of humor, and the good sense to know when to wrap it up.

Are you a member of the wedding party that wants to (or has been asked to) give a toast at an upcoming celebration? Read ahead to learn how to write and prepare for your big moment.

Who Gives a Wedding Speech?

First off, it’s important to make sure that the couple definitely wants you to give a toast at their celebrations. Traditionally, the maid of honor, best man, and parents of the couple will give a speech at the wedding. However, the couple should explicitly ask these guests well in advance to give a speech so they have plenty of time to prepare. They may also choose additional wedding party members to give toasts at the reception or pre-wedding parties; but if the couple has not asked you to give a speech, do not prepare one. Speeches are carefully placed into a wedding timeline so the day will stay on schedule, and an additional five minutes could cut into strategically timed moments of the celebration.

The to-be-weds also have the right to curate the day as they wish, and occasionally at a rehearsal dinner or welcome party, the couple may open the floor to additional toasts. But if this doesn’t happen, grabbing the mic unexpectedly for an off-the-cuff speech (especially after a few glasses of wine) will not be appreciated.

How to Write a Wedding Speech

If you are asked to give a toast, it’s important that you don’t just wing it. “First, recognize that speechwriting is a creative process,” shares Allison Shapira, founder and CEO of Global Public Speaking . “Give yourself plenty of time to be creative (i.e. not the night before, when you already have so much to stress about). Wait for your most creative time of the day, and turn off any distractions. Spend some unrushed time thinking about your relationship to the couple, and what you’d like to say.”

While there’s no exact template to follow, there is a good basic formula to adhere to. “The framework I recommend for a wedding speech is: story, message, blessing,” she shares. “Tell a heartwarming story, share the message or value behind that story, and then offer a blessing or wish for the couple based on that message.”

“Typically, we advise our speakers to try to bring the audience on a journey where you initially try to make them laugh, then get to the real depth of the speech and earn some tears, then bring the whole speech full circle with a deep insight or story about the couple that ends with a funny final punch,” shares Steven Greitzer, CEO and founder of Provenance , an AI company that specializes in helping write personalized wedding vows, ceremonies, and toasts. “It’s important to have a good balance of humor and sentimentality because, if it’s a full roast, it can feel like you’re just doing a standup comedy show for your own benefit and it could lack substance. Or, if it’s too overly emotional, it can get heavy and perhaps a bit too somber for a wedding celebration.”

When choosing a story, Shapira recommends reading the room. “It should obviously be good-natured, without making anyone look bad. And, it all depends on the family dynamics,” she says. “What one family considers good-natured, another family could consider scathing. Choose someone in the audience whom you think could give you some helpful feedback, and practice the speech with them in advance.”

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Greitzer adds that it's important that both members of the couple are highlighted in the speech. “Great anecdotes showcase who each person was before meeting, their synergy together, and their individual and collective growth,” he shares. If you don’t know one member of the couple very well, don’t be afraid to get creative. “One of the best speeches I’ve seen was from a bridesmaid who hadn’t really been able to spend too much time with her best friend’s fiance because of the pandemic,” Greitzer shares. “She creatively read texts she found in her phone that gave her a hilarious timeline of her friend falling in love.”

If you’re still not sure where to begin, consider giving an AI platform a try to help you form your toast. “The Provenance tools guide speakers to create unique, and personal ceremonies, vows, and toasts without the stress. It’s a partner in your brainstorming process; a way to help you verbalize what you were trying to say—but faster,” explains Greitzer. “Instead of being some outdated, mad-libs-style template, the expert-curated prompts inspire special stories and insights, ultimately weaving your responses together into a custom, editable first draft.”

A final writing tip from Shapira? “I definitely recommend creating an outline but do not recommend writing the speech out word for word. When we script the entire speech, it sounds too formal,” says the public speaking expert. “I recommend first brainstorming the content, rearranging it into a logical structure, then drafting a general outline which you can bring with you to the event. While it may look better to simply give the speech ‘from the heart,’ the stress involved in trying to memorize your speech is simply not worth it.”

How to Deliver a Wedding Speech

Writing a wedding speech is half the battle—next comes your performance. It’s important that your toast has a good flow, feels natural, and doesn’t drag on. Here’s where the idiom “practice makes perfect” rings true. Shapira advises giving yourself a few weeks of rehearsal to make your speech feel authentic and fluid. Her recommendations? “Read your speech out loud and make sure it stays within the time you have allotted. Read it to someone else and get their feedback. Record it and watch it back. We use a tool called AMPLIFY to get AI-based feedback.” She adds, “Don’t memorize the speech, but do read it out loud and make sure it sounds like your voice.”

The ideal length of a toast is between two to four minutes, which translates to around 500 to 1000 words on a page. Still, Greitzer notes, “The perfect length for the wedding toast complies with whatever length the couple wants it to be. Many guests don’t realize that long speeches can impact the whole evening’s timeline and affect the caterer, DJ, and so much more.”

While it’s now common to see toasts being read off a phone, both experts agree that it’s much better to print out your speech. “Reading off of a phone comes with the risk of distractions from notifications, a weird backlight that can affect the color of your face in photos, finicky technical difficulties, and having that annoying sound interference with the mic,” says Greitzer. (You also should make sure your speech is legible with a large font and wide spacing so you can easily find your place.)

The final hurdle of giving a wedding toast is getting over your nerves. “Find a quiet place right beforehand to center yourself (perhaps the bathroom or a corner of the room), pause and breathe, and remind yourself why you care about the couple,” recommends Shapira. She also adds—perhaps unsurprisingly—that it’s best to hold back on alcohol consumption ahead of the toast. “No one expects a perfect or professional speech; they want a unique, authentic message. The speech isn’t about you—it’s about the couple. Once you reframe the fact that the center of attention isn’t on you, you can relax.”

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The Ultimate Guide to Giving a Bride Speech

If you're thinking of giving a bride speech on your big day but you're not sure where to start, don't worry. We've spoken to an expert for a few top tips!

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Many people will tell you that they’re favourite part of a wedding has to be the  wedding speeches , in particular the words of thanks from the groom and the highly anticipated best man speech .

However, this male dominated wedding tradition is going through a (long-overdue) shakeup, as proven in our recent statistics that show over one fifth of brides are also planning to make a speech of their own.

‘For too long the female voice has been missing from the wedding party,’ says Lawrence Bernstein, CEO of Great Speech Writing . ‘Bring your wedding into the 21st Century and get your voice heard by giving a bride speech at your reception.’

Inspired to make a bride speech but not sure where to start? Read on for our experts tips on how to nail the perfect wedding speech and watch our video from speech guru Heidi Ellert of Speechy .

View this post on Instagram Now’s the perfect time to get writing your bride speech! Not sure where to start? The talented team at @speechyspeeches have shared their top tips for a bride speech that’s romantic, funny and will have everyone cheering! Don’t let the guys have all the fun now! @speechyspeeches are wedding speech gurus who’ve helped write for TV shows and celebs, so they know what they’re talking about. Listen to Heidi share her top 9 tips and use this weekend to start planning yours. It’s a seriously fun #wedminfromhome project, we promise, and you’ll remember giving your speech forever. #weddingplanning #wedding #weddingspeech #weddingspeechwriting #weddings #bride #groom #speech #bridespeech Photo: @markbrownfilms A post shared by Hitched (@hitcheduk) on Apr 9, 2020 at 9:38am PDT

Why Should I Give a Bride Speech?

According to a Hitched survey, more than one in five brides surveyed (22.7%) said that they plan to give a speech at their wedding – therefore challenging the stale tradition that the wedding speeches are only made by the male members of the wedding party!

‘It makes sense in this day and age that more brides are willing to make a wedding speech,’ says Caroline Bradley, director of Sorella and Co. ‘The bride may want to thank her partner’s family for welcoming her, and she is able to thank her own bridesmaids, friends and family for their support.

‘As the groom’s speech traditionally compliments the bride, it’s really only fair the bride can say lovely things about her new spouse in front of everyone too.’

As a professional speech writer, Lawrence completely agrees with this point of view and believes that giving a bride speech gives the proceedings a more balanced feel.

‘Typically, 80% of the speeches given at weddings are from the male point of view,’ he explains. ‘If the bride stands up and speaks then this gives the guests a female prospective on everything already covered by the men, plus it allows her to say her own ‘thank you’s to people who may have been missed out.’

What Angle Should I Go For?

A key speech writing tip that Lawrence offers to everyone is to first put yourself in your guests’ shoes and think about what they want to hear. Try to find an angle that hasn’t been covered in the other speeches and always keep it relevant.

‘There’s a risk that you could end up repeating what’s already been said in the previous speeches so originality can be an issue,’ warns Lawrence. ‘I recommend contacting the best man, the father of the bride and your partner to get an idea of what (and who) they’ll be talking about in their speech.

‘Find your angle and keep it light-hearted and to the point. Humour is great but keep it observational – you’re not there to be a stand-up comic! Perhaps you could say a thank you to people who haven’t already been thanked, or talk about how far people have travelled to be there or if you have any stories from your wedding planning experience.’

Groom speeches are most likely to overlap with the bride speech, so if you’re speaking after him perhaps you could consider following on from what he said and give your point of view about the relationship and how happy he makes you.

There’s no need to worry about the facts, just give your angle and remember to keep it light hearted!

Has there been any interesting holidays or memorable day trips you’ve taken together? What about an anecdote associated with when you first met or shared your first date? There’s lots of things you can talk about but just remember to remain concise.

Another good talking point is to give a big shout out to your bridesmaids, as after all, they’ve been there with you right from the beginning of the planning. Male members of the wedding party usually give a mention to the bridesmaids, but they are unlikely to have the bond that you have with them so there’s certainly room to expand on this.

Dos and Don’ts of Giving a Bride Speech

Do remember that brevity is important so keep your speech brief and to the point. ’10 minutes is probably too long when there around 30 minutes worth of other speeches,’ suggests Lawrence. ‘I’d say keep it to five minutes – you don’t want to bore your guests.’

Don’t fill your speech with too many cliquey ‘in jokes’ if you mention your bridesmaids. ‘Always remember your guests!’ says Lawrence.

Don’t make too many rehearsed jokes as this could sound forced and akward. Keep reminding yourself of your intended angle whilst you write the speech.

Do write for the way that you speak. ‘Forget punctuation, grammar and long sentences,’ says Lawrence. ‘Write in sound bites which are sentences of around six or seven words and then add pauses. Underline any key descriptive words.’

Do be wary of bringing up embarrassing stories in your speech, as this has the potential to make the reception awkward if it goes down like a lead balloon!

Do speak from the heart and really put your own personal stamp on the speech, as opposed to simply just reading out a list of last minute ‘thank you’s.

Don’t forget to make eye contact with everyone in the room and breathe slowly to calm yourself and collect your thoughts.

When Do I Give the Bride Speech?

‘There’s no hard and fast rule about the order of the speeches so perhaps the bride could even go first,’ suggests Lawrence. ‘It’s important that the bride speech isn’t just an accessory to the speeches or thoughtlessly tacked on at the end.’

You could even choose to go in the middle if you’re nervous about going first! As long as you communicate with the other speech makers about when everybody will say their piece.

The bride should be able to take on some of the important ‘thank you’s in her speech, so if there’s particular people you want to give a special mention to then consider whether going first, last or in the middle of the speeches would be better for you.

If you’re not sure how to fill your speech but you have bridesmaid gifts that you want to present to your best girls, then you could incorporate this into your five minutes. This is also a lovely thing to do at the end of the speeches.

How Can I Make My Speech Bride Speech Different?

‘A great speech can really bring the wedding to life,’ explains Lawrence. ‘Reciting a rhyme or a poem is a great way to make it unique and grab your guests’ attention.

‘Again, remember that relevance is key. Think – is there a particular song or a poem that has a significant meaning to you and your partner? Perhaps there is one that represents a milestone in your relationship.’

Another great way to personalise your wedding and make the speech memorable is to incorporate your own words into a meaningful song or poem. You don’t have to break into a song and dance – just a simple reading of the key lyrics can have a big impact.

Whether you choose to go for the humorous or heartfelt angle, this is sure to be something that your guests will remember and your partner will love the effort you’ve put in!

Can I Ask for Help With My Bride Speech?

Absolutely! There’s no harm in a bit of pre wedding communication with some of your guests (preferably close pals who you know will be honest with you) to get an idea of what they want to hear in a speech.

We also have a huge wedding speeches section here on Hitched that is filled with tips and examples of past bride speeches to inspire you in your writing. There’s also joke ideas, famous quotes, poems and toasts to ensure that every kind of speech is covered.

Finally, if you’ve poured your heart and soul into writing your speech but aren’t sure if the finished thing is suitable, you could send it to Lawrence and his team at Great Speech Writing to get a professional opinion.

‘Planning the reception takes ages but remember that the speeches take up quite a lot of time during it, so it’s worth putting the time in to make sure that yours is up to scratch,’ says Lawrence. ‘Many clients send us their draft through to check for them. Others choose to meet us, brief us on how they want the speech and then we write it for them.’

We hope you’re feeling really inspired after reading our guide to giving a bride speech! It’s normal to have a few butterflies in your stomach in the run up to the wedding, however if you feel overcome with worry about your speech or any other aspect of the planning then you need our top tips on banishing wedding day nerves .

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Weddings are a blast, but the speeches—whether heartfelt or hilarious—remind everyone why they’re there: to celebrate two people in love. This wedding speech guide covers all the basics.

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Wedding receptions are undoubtedly about the newly married couple, but between music, catching up with friend and relatives, and sampling dessert tables, there is a lot going on. Once the wedding ceremony is over, the day can quickly go from dignified to lively and raucous (in the best way possible, of course), and the wedding speeches are possibly the last time every guest will be seated at once. They're also what's going to make your big day feel extra personal and sentimental when loved ones share their favorite memories of you and your partner. If you're planning your wedding toast or speech order, or if you're in the wedding party and need to prep for your own toast, follow these guidelines and tips to know exactly what you should expect. 

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Who gives a toast at a wedding.

Your parents/parent figures, wedding party members, best friends, or close relatives are generally the ones who give speeches or readings throughout your wedding celebration, but ultimately, you can ask whoever you want if it will mean something to you. Keep in mind that speeches are traditionally given at the rehearsal dinner, the wedding reception, and sometimes during the ceremony, such as readings or blessings. Here are all the wedding speeches you'll need to plan for and who traditionally gives them at each event—but remember this can change depending on your personal preferences and what does or doesn't apply to you as a couple.    

Rehearsal dinner speeches

Since fewer people will be in attendance, these  rehearsal dinner toasts  can be longer and more involved than wedding day speeches. Say hello and introduce yourself, then welcome everyone and say how excited you are for the wedding. Tell a sweet, hilarious, or intriguing story that’s related to the couple or the wedding. For example, give your first impression of meeting the bride or groom; talk about how the couple met or got engaged; or share a childhood memory, like how the bride used to try on her mother’s wedding gown when she was a teenager. End with something sentimental and heartfelt about the couple or a quote about marriage, then wish the couple well.

• Host(s): The rehearsal dinner is traditionally hosted by the groom's parents (if applicable). The father of the groom, mother of the groom, or other host will thank guests for attending. 
• Wedding party: While the best man and maid of honor speeches should be reserved for the wedding reception, this is a chance for other bridesmaids and groomsmen to publicly share their well wishes for the newlyweds. 
• Couple: The couple will take a few minutes to thank their relatives and wedding party for supporting and celebrating them. 
• Other family members/important guests:  Grandparents and other close relatives may wish to share an informal congratulations during the rehearsal dinner. 

Wedding ceremony speeches and readings

• Officiant: In addition to coordinating your wedding vows, the officiant may wish to share a personal story about the two of you during the ceremony, especially if they're someone you've known for a long time or have been in pre-wedding counseling. 
• Ceremony readers: Friends and relatives who aren't already in the wedding party are great choices when deciding who will give readings during the ceremony. 

Wedding reception speeches

• Best man: The best man kicks off the wedding speeches by giving a toast shortly after everyone is seated at their reception tables. 
• Maid of honor: The maid of honor takes the mic immediately following the best man's speech. 
• Host(s): The wedding reception is traditionally hosted by the bride's parents (if applicable). The father of the bride and/or mother of the bride will congratulate the newlyweds and give a toast.
• Couple: The couple may wish to say a few brief words to kickstart the reception meal and thank guests for coming. 

Every couple has their own preferences and relationships when it comes to who gives  wedding speeches and toasts , and nobody should ever feel forced to give one. If the best man or maid of honor isn’t comfortable speaking in front of a crowd (or if there isn’t a best man or maid of honor at all), either skip it or hand the baton to somebody who will love getting up in front of a sea of eager faces. If a lot of people want to make a toast, consider arranging traditional toasts during the wedding and save the rest of the speeches for the rehearsal dinner.

How long should a wedding speech be?  

No matter how long you've known the couple, it's best to keep your wedding speech under five minutes, and aim for closer to three minutes if you can. Even if there’s a lot to say, talking for three minutes can feel like a long time—but with a simple template, you'll nail your moment in the spotlight. A great speech doesn't have to be full of perfected, eloquent wording; instead, it should evoke an emotion and convey a genuine happiness for the couple. Short and sweet wedding toasts can still be filled with plenty of charm! 

What do you say in a wedding speech? 

Since you want to keep your toast short and to the point, it's best to follow a simple outline. Regardless of your role, a great wedding speech should go something like this: Start by introducing yourself and sharing how you know the couple, followed by a short anecdote or story, and conclude by sharing your love and raising a glass to the newlyweds. Here are other speech examples: 

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What should you avoid in a wedding speech?  

Inside stories may amuse the couple, but they can easily get lost on the rest of the crowd, and the last thing you want is crickets or awkward silence. No matter what, don’t bring up old flames or problems the couple has faced—this is supposed to be a happy, lighthearted celebration. Not sure if that hilarious but questionable story from a night out is appropriate? Skip it—children, parents, and grandparents are listening! Avoid insult humor, too. Remember, this is a toast, not a roast! For more tips, here's  how to write a funny wedding speech .

Reception Wedding Speech Order

1. the best man.

You might think that being best man is all about planning a raucous bachelor party and not much else, but this job does have a few  best man duties  to prepare for, most important being the best man speech. And when it comes to the wedding speech order, the best man usually goes first. The best man should introduce himself and explain how he knows the couple. For example, he can tell the story of how he and the groom have been buddies since high school and how they met the bride-to-be during spring break their junior year of college. He can then say something positive about the couple and their relationship, show gratitude for being part of their day and wish them happiness. (Pssst! Here's  how to write a best man speech .)

2. Maid of honor

When thinking about wedding speeches,  the maid of honor is usually top of mind . While the maid of honor can follow the same outline as the best man’s speech, it’s more common for their speech to focus on the bride. Drawing from past experiences together, the MOH can tell a heartwarming or funny story from their friendship or share an anecdote from wedding planning escapades. For example, maybe the veil didn’t arrive until the day before the wedding or putting together the favors was a complete nightmare, but the bride managed to keep her cool through it all. (Here are all our tips on  how to write a maid of honor speech , from start to finish.) 

3. Parents of either spouse

If one or both sets of parents are hosting the wedding , they may choose to say a few words to welcome everyone to the event as part of the wedding speech order. This toast will be fairly fast, especially if the parents made a lengthy or heartwarming toast at the rehearsal dinner. The  father of the bride speech  or parents' toast usually welcomes and thanks the guests, and then raises a glass to the other set of parents and the happy couple.

4. The couple

Sometimes the couple will opt to make a toast, particularly  if they are hosting the wedding . The main purpose of this toast is to be a  wedding thank-you speech  to everyone involved: the bridal party, family and guests. Couples may also express their excitement about starting their new married life together. Again, this is an optional (but nice) part of the wedding speech order, so if the couple is hesitant about speaking in front of a crowd, they can go from table to table during the reception to express their thanks in a more personal, intimate way.

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You’ve just been asked to make a speech at the wedding of someone you love. What an honor, but also, if you’re not used to giving speeches, what a nightmare! Public speaking can be intimidating, which is why many people would rather avoid it. But it’s time to come together when your best friend asks you to give a speech at his or her wedding. Now that you’re wondering if you even know how to write a wedding speech, we’ll tell you what makes some speeches funny and memorable and what makes others cringe-worthy and uninspiring. We’ve put together the definitive guide on how to write a wedding speech, with an emphasis on what you should do and should not do, as well as tips on how to deliver your speech like a pro.

Here are some “dos” to keep in mind if you’re unsure how to write a wedding speech.

If the bride just asked you to give a wedding speech but you don’t know how to write one, now is not the time to put it off. You probably avoided giving too many speeches in public before this because public speaking is one of the top fears that people have. And if you’re not a performer or an experienced improv comedian, you might struggle with this one if you try to wing it. The best way to avoid freezing up when you take the microphone if you get nervous in front of an audience (as most of us do) is to be prepared.

What is a wedding’s most significant speech?

1. the groom’s father or the bride’s parents. The father of the bride speech, which is typically the first toast made, is frequently one of the most touching and emotional speeches at wedding receptions. Usually, the father of the bride will begin by extending a warm welcome and expressing gratitude to everyone who attended.

The art of creating the ideal timeline for a wedding reception The wedding speeches should be one of many memorable moments that occur throughout the course of the wedding day as a whole. Determining the order of the wedding speeches is a crucial step in creating the ideal timeline and flow for the reception. In order to facilitate this, we have outlined the conventional wedding speech order for you below, along with solutions to other crucial wedding speech-related queries.

Keep in mind, however, that you are not required to adhere to this structure in any way, even though it is the conventional order for speeches. Every couple has a unique situation. After all, this is your wedding, so you get to choose the proper wedding speech sequence for your celebration. Use this sample wedding speech order as a starting point, then edit and revise as necessary.

According to Trista Croce, a wedding planner and the founder of the upscale wedding planning and event company BTS Event Management based in Phoenix, Arizona, the father of the bride typically makes his speech first at the wedding reception. This is due to the fact that the bride’s parents usually host the wedding. This may or may not be the case, though, for many couples. The couple might pay for everything themselves, or the groom’s parents will frequently contribute to wedding expenses. In these situations, choosing who gets to speak first really rests with the couple. If they want to follow tradition, they can go with the father of the bride or the best man, depending on who is hosting the wedding.

What to avoid saying in a wedding speech

These topics should be avoided at all costs to avoid awkward moments: The funny thing is, I actually dated the bride or groom first. As you may recall, I never imagined they would get back together after their third breakup. dot. Right now, I’m just so wasted. Welp, no one ever imagined this day would arrive. Kiss your freedom goodbye.

If you’re given a microphone at a wedding, your top priority should be to express your congratulations to the newlyweds. Avoid these subjects to avoid an awkward situation.

1. It’s ironic that I first dated the bride or groom.

2. I never imagined they would get back together after their third breakup, you know. ever, I guess.

How do you begin a wedding speech example?

“Good evening, women and men. I’m honored to greet you all here tonight as (name’s friend/relative). ” I just wanted to say thank you for such a wonderful introduction, (name). I just wish I could match your kind words!”.

If you’ve read our article on how to write a great wedding speech, you’ll know how crucial it is to start strong. Today, we’re going to show you how to do just that with a list of the best wedding speech opening lines. We’ve made sure to include a variety of options so there’s something to suit every style of speech, whether you want to keep it incredibly simple, bring the audience to tears, or wow them with a joke. Some of our wedding speech opening lines can also be customized to help you. So let’s get started!

We’ve divided our sample opening lines into three categories: straightforward and sincere opening lines, humorous opening lines, and opening lines with quotes from well-known figures.

Please take note that (name) can refer to you, the bride or groom, the couple as a whole, or another member of the wedding party.

What should the length of a wedding speech be?

While many experts will advise you to keep your speech to three minutes or less, Chertoff asserts that the best wedding speeches typically last three to five minutes. The ideal speech lasts about five minutes, give or take a minute or two, according to Gottsman.

In the past, people would raise their glasses to their gods during wedding speeches in ancient societies. Giving a speech (or toast) in honor of the newlyweds remains a significant component of wedding celebrations today.

Allyson Joseph, an event producer at Bob Gail Events in Los Angeles, California, explains that the parents of the newlyweds, a representative from each side of the wedding party (the best man and maid of honor), and the newlyweds themselves are typically expected to make a response toast.

The father and mother of the groom typically make a toast at the rehearsal dinner because they frequently host it, unlike the wedding, which is frequently hosted by the bride’s family.

Is it acceptable to read a wedding speech?

The argument over whether it’s acceptable to read a wedding speech is resolved in this section. It’s okay to bring notes with you as long as you are familiar with your script because, according to experts, not everyone is good at public speakingfamiliar with your script because, according to experts, not everyone is good at public speaking. It is crucial to express your love for the couple.

In the past, people would raise their glasses to their gods at weddings and give speeches to the couple. Even in modern times, giving a speech (or toast) in honor of the newlyweds remains a significant component of wedding festivities.

Allyson Joseph, an event producer at Bob Gail Events in Los Angeles, California, explains that typically, those expected to give wedding speeches include the newlyweds’ parents, one representative from each side of the couple’s wedding party (the best man and maid of honor), and a response toast from the newlyweds.

Given that they frequently host this event, the father and mother of the groom typically make a toast at the rehearsal dinner, whereas the bride’s family typically does so at the wedding.

What makes a good wedding speech, you ask ?

“Welcome to the most significant day of (NAME) and (NAME’s) lives. Promises have become binding agreements today, and friends have merged into families. ” (NAME) and I are here to celebrate with (NAME) and (NAME) today. “We appreciate your presence with us on this special day.”.

Our wedding speech introduction examples will help you get started if you need help with a speech but don’t know where to start.

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Standing up and speaking at a wedding, whether it’s the groom’s speech, the father of the bride speech, or the eagerly anticipated best man speech, can be quite nerve-wracking. We provide examples of wedding speech introductions as well as instructions on how to start your speech so you can feel confident and get off to a strong start.

How do you nail a marriage speech?

Plan ahead and begin as soon as possible. dot. Tell them about yourself and how you know the bride and groom. dot. Congratulate the newlyweds while thanking the hosts, visitors, and wedding party. dot. Individualize it. dot. Identify 3 traits and 3 examples for each. dot. Describe the couple. dot. consists of a start, middle, and end. dot. Think of your target market.

You’ve just been asked to make a speech at the wedding of someone you love. What an honor, but also, if you’re not used to giving speeches, what a nightmare! Public speaking can be intimidating, which is why many people would rather avoid it. The time to mobilize, however, is when your best friend asks you to give a speech at his or her wedding. Now that you’re wondering if you even know how to write a wedding speech, let us explain what distinguishes memorable wedding speeches from cringe-inducing ones. We’ve put together the definitive guide on how to write a wedding speech, with an emphasis on what you should do and should not do, as well as tips on how to deliver your speech like a pro.

If the bride just asked you to give a wedding speech but you don’t know how to write one, now is not the time to put it off. Since public speaking is one of the top fears people have, it’s likely that you haven’t given many speeches in public before. And you might not do too well winging this one unless you’re a performer or an experienced improv comedian. Being prepared is your best line of defense against freezing up when you take the mic if, like the majority of us, you get anxious in front of an audience.

What is an illustration of a wedding speech?

“To my bridesmaids: I’m so grateful to have you as part of my bridal party. You are my oldest and closest friends. We are grateful for your love, support, and assistance throughout the years as well as at the wedding. On this special day, I appreciate you being there for me once more. I cherish each and every one of you. “.

A difficult task is writing your wedding speech. You can make the audience gasp with the help of our wedding speech examples and advice!

Your wedding is the ideal time to express your love and gratitude to your family and friends, especially since they have come to celebrate your new milestone and bestow blessings upon you. Take some time to write your wedding speech beforehand, and practice delivering it too. While your heart may be full of emotion and gratitude on your wedding day, it can be difficult to convey them elegantly on the fly, especially if you’re a little drunk and a lot nervous.

Determine in advance who will say what and who will go first so you don’t end up being repetitive. You can choose to thank the people in your lives collectively as a couple or individually.

Who introduces themselves first during a wedding speech?

When guests have found seats, the person hosting the event should take the microphone and speak first. The father or parents of the bride are most frequently the ones to make the first toast, which should include a greeting to the guests as well as a toast to the happy couple.

The toasts are a significant wedding custom that you won’t want to miss before you start dancing. When planning the timeline for the reception, be sure to leave time for these activities because, if done well, they can be among the most cherished and memorable aspects of the event. We’re here to break down the fundamentals of a toast if you’re unsure of how much time to allocate or who should be chosen to speak.

The key to a successful wedding toast is preparation. Although spontaneous speeches can be lovely, you won’t want to keep your guests away from the dance floor for an extended period of time, so leave the open mic at the rehearsal dinner and start by identifying exactly who you want to speak at your reception. Although you can change these roles to suit your preferences, the traditional key speakers are:

Here’s a breakdown of wedding speeches by speaker.

How long should a speech be at a wedding?

Keep it brief (three to five minutes). A speech should last between three and five minutes, with five minutes being the absolute maximum. I’m done now.

Speaking in front of strangers’ family and wedding guests—a diverse group of people from different ages and cultures, no less—while under additional pressure to deliver a speech in front of your loved one’s family and guests isn’t easy. Because the happy couple deserves it, you want to be the one who completely nails the toast. However, take a deep breath before you panic or commit to a year of Toastmasters classes. To assist you in giving the most memorable wedding toast ever, we’ve got you covered with a wealth of professional advice.

Continue reading for a thorough guide on what to include in your speech, how to deliver it flawlessly, and questions to think about to kick off the brainstorming process—all from eminent speakers and seasoned speechwriters.

The right flow is a key component of every great wedding speech. To assist you in discovering your own natural rhythm, take into account these suggestions.

At a wedding, who gets to speak first?

As soon as guests have settled into their seats, the person hosting the event should take the mic and speak first. The parents (or father) of the bride are most frequently the ones to make the first toast, which should include a congratulations to the happy couple as well as a thank-you to the guests.

The toasts are a significant wedding custom that you won’t want to miss before you start dancing. When planning the timeline for the reception, be sure to leave time for these activities because, if done well, they can be among the most cherished and memorable aspects of the event. We’re here to break down the fundamentals of a toast if you’re unsure of how much time to allocate or who to ask to speak.

The key to a successful wedding toast is preparation. While spontaneous speeches can be lovely, you won’t want to keep your guests away from the dance floor for too long, so leave the open mic at the rehearsal dinner and start by identifying precisely who you want to speak at your reception. The traditional key speakers are, though you can change these roles to suit your preferences.

How long should the toasts at a wedding be?

Keep it short. Three to five minutes is the ideal time for a speech, with five minutes being the absolute maximum. There you go.

Giving a speech at your loved one’s wedding in front of their family and guests that you have never met before—in a wide range of ages and cultures, no less—adds additional pressure to the difficulty of public speaking. Because the happy couple deserves it, you want to be the one who completely nails the toast. Take a deep breath, though, before you freak out or enroll in a year of Toastmasters classes. We’ve got you covered with a ton of insider advice so you can give the greatest wedding toast ever.

For a thorough guide on what to include in your speech, how to deliver it flawlessly, and questions to think about to kick off the brainstorming process, read on. All advice is provided by renowned speakers and established speechwriters.

In wedding speeches, who gets up first?

The Groom’s Father 1. Either the bride’s parents or the groom’s father The father of the bride speech, which is typically the first toast made at the wedding reception, is frequently one of the most emotional and moving speeches. Typically, the father of the bride will begin by extending a warm welcome and expressing gratitude to everyone who attended.

Planning the ideal timeline for the wedding reception takes skill. The wedding speeches should be just one of many special moments that make the wedding day flow smoothly from start to finish. Choosing the wedding speech order is a crucial step in creating the ideal reception timeline and flow. To assist you with that, we have outlined the conventional wedding speech order below and addressed other crucial wedding speech-related queries as well.

Having said that, remember that while this is the customary order for speeches, you are not required to adhere to it strictly or at all. The circumstances of each couple vary. Since this is ultimately your wedding, you should choose the proper wedding speech sequence for your celebration. Use this wedding speech order guide as a starting point, then make necessary modifications and adjustments.

According to Trista Croce, a wedding planner and the owner of the upscale wedding planning and event company BTS Event Management based in Phoenix, Arizona, the father of the bride typically delivers his speech first during the wedding reception. This is due to the fact that the wedding is usually hosted by the bride’s parents. This might or might not be the case for many couples, though. The couple may choose to pay for everything themselves, but frequently the parents of the groom contribute to wedding expenses. So, in these situations, it’s really up to the couple to decide who gets to speak first. The best man, the person hosting the wedding, or, if they want to follow tradition, the bride’s father.

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How to Write a Memorable Wedding Speech: Tips and Examples

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Standing in front of a crowd at a wedding can be scary. Everyone wants their speech to leave a lasting impression , not flop. This blog will offer easy tips and examples to craft a memorable speech that will touch hearts and raise smiles .

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Key Takeaways

• Start your wedding speech with a personal introduction and share stories that highlight the couple's journey and love for each other.
• Use anecdotes, relevant quotes , and keep speeches short to maintain attention; avoid making it about yourself or embarrassing the couple.
• Practice regularly to deliver your speech confidently; use notes if needed but don't rely too heavily on them.
• Stay sober before giving your speech to ensure clarity and composure.
• Finish with an uplifting toast wishing the newlyweds happiness in their future together.

Tips for Writing a Memorable Wedding Speech

Introduce yourself to the guests and share your connection to the couple. Tell a relevant story or anecdote that highlights the couple's love and relationship. Reminisce about the day you met their partner, expressing your genuine love and support for them.

Lastly, share your hopes for their future together as a married couple.

Introduce yourself

Hi, I'm [Your Name], a close friend of the couple. My bond with them started back in college where we shared countless adventures and dreams. Today, I stand here honored to speak at their wedding.

I've laughed and grown alongside these two remarkable individuals . Now, as they unite as one, I feel privileged to share stories that highlight their love and dedication .

Tell a relevant story

Begin your wedding speech with a simple and heartfelt story that highlights the couple's love and journey. This can be an anecdote about how they met, a memorable moment you shared with them, or an experience that truly captures their bond.

By weaving in this relevant story , it adds a personal touch to your speech and draws in the audience's attention, making it more engaging and memorable . Keep the focus on the couple as the heroes of the tale, emphasizing their qualities and love for each other.

Consider using templates or examples found online to guide you on structuring your story effectively while keeping it short and sweet. It's important to ensure that any anecdotes or stories shared are within boundaries set by the bride and groom, avoiding sensitive material they may not want included.

Reminisce about the day you met the couple's partner

On the day I first met Sarah, I was struck by how her eyes lit up when she talked about meeting John. They shared such a beautiful connection that it was clear this was something special.

When you met Brad, you instantly put everyone at ease with your warm smile and infectious laughter. The two of you were like magnets, drawing us all in with your genuine love and joy.

As we reminisce about the days we first crossed paths with the couple's partner, let these memories fuel our wedding speeches with warmth and authenticity. These moments are precious threads that weave into heartfelt stories to celebrate their love as they embark on this new journey together.

Express your love for the couple

Show your affection for the couple by sharing heartfelt words that reflect your genuine care for their happiness and future together. Use meaningful anecdotes or memories to express the depth of your emotion, highlighting what makes them a special and unique pair .

Emphasize their strengths as individuals and as a couple, offering warm wishes for a lifetime of love , joy, and shared adventures. Utilize quotes or phrases from wedding toast examples to add an extra touch of warmth and sincerity to your expression of love for the newlyweds.

Share your hopes for their future

As you express your hopes for the couple's future, focus on their happiness and fulfillment . Emphasize support for each other through life's ups and downs. Encourage them to embrace challenges as opportunities to grow together.

Use meaningful anecdotes or quotes to illustrate the importance of love, respect, and communication in a successful marriage.

In sharing your hopes for their future, consider the impact of mutual understanding and compromise within their relationship. Express wishes for continued laughter, adventure, and unwavering support as they navigate life's journey together.

Examples of Wedding Speeches

The examples of wedding speeches include the maid of honor speech, best man speech, and father of the bride speech. Each speech offers a unique perspective and sentiment that can inspire your own wedding toast.

Maid of Honor Speech

As the Maid of Honor, keep your speech simple and focused on the bride . Share a heartfelt story about her and express your love for her and the groom. Avoid clichés and inside jokes that others might not understand.

Keep it short to maintain everyone's attention, and end with a warm toast to their future together. Remember to seek input from others to make your speech impactful.

I hope you find these tips helpful as you prepare for this important role in your loved one's wedding day!

Best Man Speech

The best man speech should include a personal introduction , a humorous and heartfelt story about the groom, an acknowledgment of the couple's love , and well wishes for their future .

It's important to keep the speech lighthearted but respectful and avoid embarrassing anecdotes . The best man can also share how he knows the groom and express appreciation for being chosen as part of this special day.

Using examples from their friendship or shared experiences can make the speech genuine and meaningful. Additionally, incorporating relevant quotes or wedding toast quotes can add charm to the speech while keeping it concise and engaging.

Father of the Bride Speech

The father of the bride speech should be heartfelt and warm , focusing on sharing your love for your daughter and welcoming her new spouse into the family. Begin by introducing yourself and expressing your joy at being part of this special day.

Share a relevant story about your daughter growing up or the moment you realized how much she loves her partner. Express your hopes for their future together and end with a heartfelt toast to the newlyweds.

Including these elements will help you deliver a memorable father of the bride speech that will touch everyone's heart.

Common Mistakes to Avoid in Wedding Speeches

Avoid drinking too much before giving your speech, making it about yourself, or embarrassing the couple with inappropriate stories. It's important to focus on the couple and their special day.

Drinking too much

Drinking excessively before giving a wedding speech can lead to embarrassing moments and unclear delivery . It's essential to avoid alcohol beforehand in order to maintain composure and deliver a heartfelt, coherent message.

Keeping a clear head will ensure that the focus remains on celebrating the couple and their special day without any unnecessary distractions or missteps. Additionally, staying sober allows for better judgment when selecting stories and expressing thoughts, ultimately leading to a more meaningful and memorable speech.

Making it about yourself

Avoid making your wedding speech about yourself. Keep the focus on the couple and their special day. Remember, this is their moment to shine, not yours. Using too many personal anecdotes or stories unrelated to the couple can detract from their celebration .

When delivering your speech, steer clear of boasting or seeking attention for yourself . Instead, share genuine and heartfelt words that celebrate the love between the bride and groom without overshadowing their joyous occasion.

Embarrassing the couple

When delivering a wedding speech, avoid sharing embarrassing stories or anecdotes about the couple that could cause discomfort. It's crucial to respect their privacy and not divulge any information that might make them feel uneasy in front of family and friends.

Remember to use discretion when choosing the content for your speech and focus on uplifting and positive anecdotes instead.

Embarrassing the couple with inappropriate jokes or stories can detract from the joyous atmosphere of the celebration. By being mindful of what you share , you contribute to creating a warm and memorable experience for everyone present at the wedding reception.

How to Prepare and Deliver a Successful Wedding Speech

Practice regularly, keep your speech short and concise, use notes if needed, avoid alcohol before speaking, and end with a toast. Ready to craft the perfect wedding speech? Read on for more tips and examples!

Practice regularly

Regular practice is essential for a successful wedding speech. Short, frequent practice sessions can help you become more confident and comfortable with your delivery. Using notes if needed and rehearsing in front of a mirror or with a friend can also improve your performance.

Additionally, avoiding alcohol before speaking can ensure that you are clear-headed and focused during the delivery of your speech.

Consistent practice is crucial to delivering an impactful wedding speech. Rehearse regularly to enhance your confidence and delivery. Utilize notes as required, conduct mock speeches in front of a mirror or with a trusted companion, and abstain from consuming alcohol before speaking for optimal results.

Keep your speech short and concise

To make your wedding speech memorable, keep it short and sweet . Focus on telling simple stories that highlight the bride and groom as the heroes. Avoid rambling and stay within a few minutes to hold the audience's attention.

Using examples and templates found online can guide you in crafting a brief yet impactful speech. Remember, brevity is key to delivering an engaging wedding toast.

Practice regularly to ensure your delivery is concise and effective . Utilize notes if needed but avoid going off on tangents by sticking to a well-prepared script . Keep thank-yous minimal and have a clear theme for your speech to tie it all together without taking up too much time.

Use notes if needed

When preparing your wedding speech, feel free to use notes if needed. Having cue cards or a written outline can help you stay on track and remember important points. Keywords and bullet points can guide you through the structure of your speech, ensuring that you cover all the essential elements, such as introducing yourself, sharing relevant stories, expressing love for the couple, and offering hopes for their future.

Using notes will also boost your confidence and help you deliver a successful wedding speech with ease.

Remember to keep your notes concise and clear to avoid getting lost in them during your delivery. It's crucial to maintain eye contact with the audience as much as possible while referring back to your notes when necessary.

Avoid alcohol before speaking

Refrain from consuming alcohol before delivering your wedding speech. A clear mind will help you communicate effectively and avoid any embarrassment. Alcohol can impair your judgment , affecting the quality and appropriateness of your speech.

It's important to stay sober to honor the couple and respect the significance of the occasion while creating a memorable moment for all.

Remember, avoiding alcohol ensures that you are fully present to deliver a heartfelt and meaningful speech. This way, you can express genuine emotions and connect with the audience without any hindrances or regrets later on.

End with a toast

Conclude your wedding speech with a heartfelt toast to the newlyweds, wishing them love and happiness in their future together. Raise your glass and invite everyone to join you in celebrating the joyous occasion .

A meaningful toast serves as a fitting end to your speech, leaving a lasting impression on the couple and all those in attendance.

In conclusion, writing a memorable wedding speech involves simple storytelling , heartfelt expressions of love , and hopes for the couple's future . These practical tips are easy to implement and ensure that your speech is engaging and impactful .

By following these strategies, you can create a wedding speech that will leave a lasting impression on the couple and their guests. For further guidance and inspiration, explore online resources for wedding speech examples and templates .

Take action now to craft a meaningful wedding speech that truly reflects your sentiments.

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What's the Correct Order of Speeches at a Wedding?

A modernised template and tips to make the speeches run smoothly.

We're often asked, "What's the correct order of speeches at a wedding ?" and we always give the same answer - the correct order of speeches is the order that works for you and your partner, your style of wedding, and your chosen speechgivers! Of course, what couples actually mean is, "What's the traditional order of speeches at a wedding?" which is an easier question to answer, but we find the traditional order of speeches largely unhelpful when planning a modern wedding. That's why we've come up with a new, modernised template for you to work from, as well as some tips on customising the list for your own big day.

The Traditional or Formal Order of Speeches at a Wedding:

When we're asked about the correct order of speeches at a wedding, the couple is usually looking for the traditional , typical or formal order of speeches at a wedding, which we've provided below. However, it's important to note that this order is pretty outdated, and doesn't accommodate same-sex couples or parents, mixed-gender bridal parties , or brides or other female wedding party members who would like to speak . So, while we've provided it here for any traditional couples out there, we highly recommend you check out our modernised version below!

• The Father of the Bride
• The Father of the Groom
• The Best Man

The Order of Speeches at a Wedding for Modern Couples:

For our updated version of the traditional order of speeches at a wedding, we've gone for a semi-chronological line up. We placed parents first, as they tend to talk more about the couple's early lives, followed by friends and siblings, who often talk about school and early adulthood, and how the couple met. It can be useful for the couple to go last, as this gives you an opportunity to thank everyone who played a role in the day, including the speechgivers. That said, there are many more factors to consider when planning the order of speeches at a wedding - keep reading to find out what they are!

• The Couple's Parents - could be anything from one to four speeches
• The Couple's Closest Friends and/or Siblings - these might include Best Man, Maid of Honour, Groomsmen, Bridesmaids, Groomsmaids, Bridesmen, members of the wedding party or non-members
• The Couple  - speaking either together or separately

Tips for Planning the Order of Speeches at a Wedding

• Remember, there's no rule to say that the father-of-the-bride or best man has to give a speech. Equally, we've witnessed amazing speeches given by friends, grandparents and flower girls! Keep an open mind when deciding who will speak at your wedding , and consider who you'd like to hear from, and who would like to speak, rather than blindly following a traditional order.
• It's not mandatory, but we recommend that you at least consider speaking at your own wedding . Guests love to hear from couples, and most couples report that they're glad they made the effort to speak on their own big day.
• When planning the order of speeches, consider whether the speeches will take place all at once , or whether you will stagger them throughout the day . As we discussed here , having some speeches before or after the ceremony, or during the drinks reception, can help combat speech fatigue at the reception, and give nervous speakers the opportunity to get their speech done early on in the day.

• Think about who's going to be giving the speeches, and whether they're confident or nervous about it. It's worth asking them about this directly, as the answer might surprise you!
• Ask one of your more confident speakers to MC the speeches . This really just means they'll introduce each of the speakers in the line up to give the speeches a more polished feel, and give speakers a boost by encouraging the audience to give them a round of applause when they first pick up the microphone.
• You can also ask your MC to watch out for any potential technical difficulties , make sure all the other speakers are ready to go, keep an eye on time, arrange glasses of water for each speaker, etc. You can also give them a list of people to thank on your behalf.
• Place nervous speakers early on the line up , but have your MC introduce them, preferably with a (tasteful!) joke or some words of encouragement. Let your MC know that they're feeling a little apprehensive, so they can encourage the crowd to welcome them warmly.
• Confident speakers can go anywhere on the line up, but having a particularly confident or funny speechgiver go last will end the speeches on a high note!

We have lots more great tips on speeches below:

• Our Favourite Opening Lines
• How to Make a Great Best Man's Speech
• How to Stop Your Speeches Going on Too Long
• Ways to Shake up Your Wedding Speeches
• Free Wedding Speech Bingo Printable
• Dos and Don'ts of Giving a Great Maid of Honour Speech
• The Ultimate Groom's Wedding Speech Checklist

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Do the Bride and Groom Have to Give a Speech at Their Wedding Reception?

Talking to a crowd isn't for everyone.

Nancy is a freelance writer for MarthaStewart.com.

Making a speech in front of a crowd is way too difficult for some people to handle, even if the audience is comprised of their loved ones. If you're a bride or groom worried that you're expected to give wedding speeches that spill your heart out at the reception, relax. There are only a few expected speakers during the night, and these include the host (usually the father of the bride or whoever is financing the wedding), the best man, and the maid of honor. With that being said, many couples do like to take a few moments to thank everyone for joining them on this special day, and to thank their families and the vendor teams that made the entire event possible. If you fall into that camp, here's what you need to know.

Go it solo or together.

You can do it alone or as a tag team with your new spouse. If you're appearing as a duo, you could toast each other, then the bridal party , your parents, and the guests and vendors, thanking them for being a part of your special day.

Take your turn.

After the host and best man, the maid of honor makes the next toast. Should you two each want to say a few words on your own, the groom would go next, followed by his bride.

Know your words.

While you don't have to memorize a speech, do figure out what you want to say ahead of time-who to thank, which anecdotes would work best, and so forth. A glass of pre-toast Champagne or a cocktail may loosen you up, but avoid being a sloppy speaker who slurs-especially when that speaker is the bride or groom.

Speak at the right time.

The speeches can come at the tail end of the main course , when everyone is almost finished eating.

Vana plans to let users rent out their Reddit data to train AI

A startup, vana, says it wants users to get paid for training data.

In the generative AI boom, data is the new oil. So why shouldn’t you be able to sell your own?

From Big Tech firms to startups, AI makers are licensing e-books, images, videos, audio and more from data brokers, all in the pursuit of training up more capable ( and more legally defensible ) AI-powered products. Shutterstock has deals with Meta, Google, Amazon and Apple to supply millions of images for model training, while OpenAI has signed agreements with several news organizations to train its models on news archives.

In many cases, the individual creators and owners of that data haven’t seen a dime of the cash changing hands. A startup called Vana wants to change that.

Anna Kazlauskas and Art Abal, who met in a class at the MIT Media Lab focused on building tech for emerging markets, co-founded Vana in 2021. Prior to Vana, Kazlauskas studied computer science and economics at MIT, eventually leaving to launch a fintech automation startup, Iambiq, out of Y Combinator. Abal, a corporate lawyer by training and education, was an associate at The Cadmus Group, a Boston-based consulting firm, before heading up impact sourcing at data annotation company Appen.

With Vana, Kazlauskas and Abal set out to build a platform that lets users “pool” their data — including chats, speech recordings and photos — into datasets that can then be used for generative AI model training. They also want to create more personalized experiences — for instance, daily motivational voicemail based on your wellness goals, or an art-generating app that understands your style preferences — by fine-tuning public models on that data.

“Vana’s infrastructure in effect creates a user-owned data treasury,” Kazlauskas told TechCrunch. “It does this by allowing users to aggregate their personal data in a non-custodial way … Vana allows users to own AI models and use their data across AI applications.”

Here’s how Vana pitches its platform and API to developers :

The Vana API connects a user’s cross-platform personal data … to allow you to personalize your application. Your app gains instant access to a user’s personalized AI model or underlying data, simplifying onboarding and eliminating compute cost concerns. … We think users should be able to bring their personal data from walled gardens, like Instagram, Facebook and Google, to your application, so you can create amazing personalized experiences from the very first time a user interacts with your consumer AI application.

Creating an account with Vana is fairly simple. After confirming your email, you can attach data to a digital avatar (e.g., selfies, a description of yourself and voice recordings) and explore apps built using Vana’s platform and datasets. The app selection ranges from ChatGPT-style chatbots and interactive storybooks to a Hinge profile generator.

Image Credits: Vana

Now, why, you might ask — in this age of increased data privacy awareness and ransomware attacks — would someone ever volunteer their personal info to an anonymous startup, much less a venture-backed one? (Vana has raised $20 million to date from Paradigm, Polychain Capital and other backers.) Can any profit-driven company really be trusted not to abuse or mishandle any monetizable data it gets its hands on?

In response to that question, Kazlauskas stressed that the whole point of Vana is for users to “reclaim control over their data,” noting that Vana users have the option to self-host their data rather than store it on Vana’s servers and control how their data’s shared with apps and developers. She also argued that, because Vana makes money by charging users a monthly subscription (starting at $3.99) and levying a “data transaction” fee on devs (e.g., for transferring datasets for AI model training), the company is disincentivized to exploit users and the troves of personal data they bring with them.

“We want to create models owned and governed users who all contribute their data,” Kazlauskas said, “and allow users to bring their data and models with them to any application.”

Now, while Vana isn’t selling users’ data to companies for generative AI model training (or so it claims), it wants to allow users to do this themselves if they choose — starting with their Reddit posts.

This month, Vana launched what it’s calling the Reddit Data DAO (Digital Autonomous Organization) , a program that pools multiple users’ Reddit data (including their karma and post history) and lets them decide together how that combined data is used. After joining with a Reddit account, submitting a request to Reddit for their data and uploading that data to the DAO, users gain the right to vote alongside other members of the DAO on decisions like licensing the combined data to generative AI companies for a shared profit.

We have crunched the numbers and r/datadao is now largest data DAO in history: Phase 1 welcomed 141,000 reddit users with 21,000 full data uploads. — r/datadao (@rdatadao) April 11, 2024

It’s an answer of sorts to Reddit’s recent moves to commercialize data on its platform.

Reddit previously didn’t gate access to posts and communities for generative AI training purposes. But it reversed course late last year, ahead of its IPO. Since the policy change, Reddit has raked in over $203 million in licensing fees from companies, including Google.

“The broad idea [with the DAO is] to free user data from the major platforms that seek to hoard and monetize it,” Kazlauskas said. “This is a first and is part of our push to help people pool their data into user-owned datasets for training AI models.”

Unsurprisingly, Reddit — which isn’t working with Vana in any official capacity — isn’t pleased about the DAO.

Reddit banned Vana’s subreddit dedicated to discussion about the DAO. And a Reddit spokesperson accused Vana of “exploiting” its data export system, which is designed to comply with data privacy regulations like the GDPR and California Consumer Privacy Act.

“Our data arrangements allow us to put guardrails on such entities, even on public information,” the spokesperson told TechCrunch. “Reddit does not share non-public, personal data with commercial enterprises, and when Redditors request an export of their data from us, they receive non-public personal data back from us in accordance with applicable laws. Direct partnerships between Reddit and vetted organizations, with clear terms and accountability, matters, and these partnerships and agreements prevent misuse and abuse of people’s data.”

But does Reddit have any real reason to be concerned?

Kazlauskas envisions the DAO growing to the point where it impacts the amount Reddit can charge customers for its data. That’s a long ways off, assuming it ever happens; the DAO has just over 141,000 members, a tiny fraction of Reddit’s 73-million-strong user base. And some of those members could be bots or duplicate accounts.

Then there’s the matter of how to fairly distribute payments that the DAO might receive from data buyers.

Currently, the DAO awards “tokens” — cryptocurrency — to users corresponding to their Reddit karma . But karma might not be the best measure of quality contributions to the dataset — particularly in smaller Reddit communities with fewer opportunities to earn it.

Kazlauskas floats the idea that members of the DAO could choose to share their cross-platform and demographic data, making the DAO potentially more valuable and incentivizing sign-ups. But that would also require users to place even more trust in Vana to treat their sensitive data responsibly.

Personally, I don’t see Vana’s DAO reaching critical mass. The roadblocks standing in the way are far too many. I do think, however, that it won’t be the last grassroots attempt to assert control over the data increasingly being used to train generative AI models.

Startups like Spawning are working on ways to allow creators to impose rules guiding how their data is used for training while vendors like Getty Images, Shutterstock and Adobe continue to experiment with compensation schemes . But no one’s cracked the code yet. Can it even be cracked? Given the cutthroat nature of the generative AI industry, it’s certainly a tall order. But perhaps someone will find a way — or policymakers will force one.

Politics latest: Cabinet minister confirms she'll vote against smoking ban; No 10 criticises 'extremely disturbing' bid to shut down conference

Kemi Badenoch reveals she will be voting against the government's legislation to effectively ban smoking; Number 10 criticises Brussels police after a mayor issues an order to shut down the National Conservatism Conference being held in the city.

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• Badenoch says she'll vote against government's smoking legislation
• Truss labels government smoking ban bill 'virtue-signalling' and 'un-conservative'
• Sophy Ridge:  Why the next Tory leadership contest will loom large over tonight's vote
• Number 10 criticises 'extremely disturbing' bid to shut down National Conservatism conference by Brussels police
• Farage - who addressed event - speaks out
• Darren McCaffrey: Crackdown only helps cancel culture cause espoused by NatCon attendees
• Rwanda bill heading back to Commons on Wednesday after government suffers four defeats in Lords
• Live reporting by Ben Bloch and (earlier)   Faith Ridler

A government minister has confirmed she will not be supporting the government's legislation to ban smoking. 

Anne-Marie Trevelyan, who is a minister in the Foreign Office minister wrote on X: "I have pondered long and hard about how to vote and have decided that in its present form I cannot support it.

"This is just stage one of the legislation and I hope that at the next stage we can make amendments which will make it law which will be more likely to actually deter young smokers without removing freedom of choice for adults.

"My granny smoked all her life, the rest of us have always been opposed to it as a result. But her ability to decide for herself is one which I would not want to remove.

"So what might work? That we raise the age of being allowed to smoke to 21, since most young people start before they are 20.

"Logically this will therefore see far far fewer people take up the bad habit in the first place."

In the final vote on amendments to the government's Rwanda bill today, the Lords handed Rishi Sunak a fourth defeat.

This amendment mandates that those who worked with the UK military or government overseas, such as Afghan interpreters, to be exempted from removal to Rwanda.

The House of Commons rejected a similar measure yesterday, but the Lords are insisting.

The result is:

• 253 in favour;
• 236 against.

That means the amendment passes with a majority of 57.

As a result of today's votes, the bill will return to the House of Commons tomorrow for MPs to have their say, as the parliamentary "ping-pong" process continues.

After a series of wins in the House of Commons yesterday, the government is suffering a series of defeats in the House of Lords today.

Peers just voted in favour of an amendment to restore the jurisdiction of domestic courts in relation to the safety of Rwanda and enable them to intervene.

That means the amendment passes with a majority of 17.

Rishi Sunak and Benjamin Netanyahu will speak on the phone tonight, Sky News understands.

It comes after Mr Sunak told MPs yesterday during a statement to parliament following Iran's attack on Israel that he would be speaking to his Israel counterpart "shortly".

After what No10 called said was issues with scheduling the call between the leaders, a time has now been set for this evening.

By Darren McCaffrey, political correspondent

Locked out and not allowed back in. That was the rather extraordinary position Nigel Farage and some conservative politicians found themselves today at a right-wing conference in Brussels.

The police's action provoked yet again arguments around free speech and extremism, but ultimately ended up creating major news too.

It wasn't meant to be that way.

The National Conservativism Conference is a frankly a fringe event. 

Yes it started five years ago, and previous guests have included Michael Gove and Jacob Rees-Mogg. 

This year Mr Farage and Suella Braverman turned up.

These are undoubtedly big voices on the right, but they weren't expected to create much news.

In fact, most of the limited coverage was likely to focus on the former home secretary's rather punchy attack on her old boss the prime minister and a setting out a case for leaving the ECHR.

Instead, the repeated actions from several district mayors in Brussels to ensure the event didn't have a venue took centre stage.

Explaining why he had brought in the police - the Mayor Emir Kir said some of the attendees hold anti-gay and anti-abortion views.

And writing on X claimed: "The far right is not welcome."

This unsurprisingly provoked any angry response from those there, including Mr Farage who told me: "Have you seen the people in the room? Does this look like a bunch of yobs to you? Far, far from it. 

"These are a lot of very respectable, very eminent people. I mean, we've got bishops here. We've got a prime minister of a country here. We've got a European royal family here. I mean, these are very respectable people. 

"There's also no protest outside of any significance at all. It's about closing down an ideology."

Irrespective of who is right and who is wrong, this latest skirmish in the constant battles around free speech was seized upon by the conference as the latest example of cancel culture.

Cancel culture in real time, as one claimed.

And the rather blunt use of the police - far from silencing those in attendance - merely only seemed to amplify their arguments.

Making it difficult not to conclude that if you wanted people to hear your views about cancel culture, the actions of the Brussels authorities only helped in that cause.

The government has lost a second vote in the House of Lords this afternoon on its legislation to rescue the embattled Rwanda scheme.

Peers voted on an amendment that says Rwanda "cannot be treated as a safe country" until the Independent Monitoring Committee - created by the treaty agreed with Rwanda - affirms that the mechanisms it creates have been fully implemented.

The result of the vote is:

• 266 in favour
• 227 against.

That's a majority of 39 in favour of the amendment.

Right now, Rishi Sunak is going to be thinking about his legacy.

Yes, yes, we don't know the outcome of the election, he's getting on with the day job, he's fighting for another five years.

But Rishi Sunak WILL be thinking about his legacy. What is it that will he be remembered for?

Now, there is an argument that one of his most lasting achievements as prime minister will be the smoking ban.

Tonight, MPs are voting on whether the legal age at which you can buy cigarettes should be increased by a year every year until it's effectively illegal.

It'll be happening when we're on air – and we'll bring you the result as they get it. Because something quite interesting is going on.

While this is a very popular policy with the public – and it's being backed by Labour – a lot of Conservative MPs are distinctively uncomfortable with it.

Freedom, according to them, includes the freedom to make bad choices as well as good ones. Banning things is simply un-conservative.

And we're going to be keeping a keen eye on the division lobbies too - because I've got a feeling that we could be seeing the next Conservative Party leadership contest play out tonight.

Who wants to burnish their freedom fighting credentials to the party faithful?

Penny Mordaunt? Kemi Badenoch? Suella Braverman?

Which division lobby will the next leader of the Conservative Party go down?

Watch Politics Hub With Sophy Ridge live on Sky News from 7pm.

Cabinet minister Kemi Badenoch has announced she will vote against Rishi Sunak's flagship legislation to ban smoking.

The business and trade secretary said in a statement on social media that while she thinks the PM's intentions are "honest", and praised him as a "leader who doesn't duck the thorny issues", she does not support his approach.

She wrote: "I have significant concerns and appreciate the PM making this a free vote. It gives me the opportunity to express my personal view, outside collective responsibility.

"The principle of equality under the law is a fundamental one. It underpins many of my personal beliefs.

"We should not treat legally competent adults differently in this way, where people born a day apart will have permanently different rights.

"Among other reasons, it will create difficulties with enforcement. This burden will fall not on the state but on private businesses.

"Smoking rates are already declining significantly in the UK and I think there is more we can do to stop children taking up the habit.

"However, I do not support the approach this bill is taking and so will be voting against it. "

During his statement to the House of Commons yesterday following Iran's attack on Israel this weekend, Rishi Sunak said he would be speaking to his Israel counterpart, Benjamin Netanyahu "shortly".

But 24 hours later, that phone call has still not taken place.

A Number 10 spokeswoman said: "We are still discussing scheduling, working out with diaries."

She rejected the suggestion that the delay was "embarrassing" and made Britain "look weak on the world stage".

She told journalists: "I don't think so. I think we saw the UK participate in a coalition over the weekend.

"The prime minister has regularly spoken with Netanyahu. It does take time to schedule these with diaries, but there was a suggestion earlier this morning that that meant that the UK's view was not being relayed, or we hadn't had an opportunity to do that.

"That is obviously incorrect. Our position is very clear, it's the same as the US, and we obviously have contact with the Israeli government through many different channels."

The foreign secretary, Lord Cameron, spoke to his Israeli counterpart on Sunday following Iran's attack, and the head of the Israeli military spoke on the phone yesterday with Admiral Sir Antony David Radakin to thank him for the UK's assistance with repelling the attack.

Ex-PM Liz Truss has been talking to lots of media outlets in the last few days to promote her new book, which is published today.

She has made a number of... unusual assertions during these interviews, and one of those is that she "can't see a purpose for the United Nations as it stands".

Lord Cameron was asked about that particular comment when taking questions from peers in the House of Lords at the moment.

He replied: "I take the view that the United Nations has many problems and issues and the frustrations of dealing with the Security Council at the moment, when you've got a Russian veto and a Chinese veto, these frustrations are very great.

"But, nonetheless, it's important we have an international body where issues can be discussed, where countries can come together.

"Good work is done through the United Nations, in spite of the frustrations, so I can see a point of the United Nations."

Labour peer Lord Grocott then asked the foreign secretary: "Has he got a message to those of us who can't see a purpose of Liz Truss?"

The ex-PM did not comment on the comments by one of his successors directly.

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